But Not All At Once

Harrison Butker Knows Best

Welp, we're skipping the official relaunch and jumping right back into things thanks to highly-paid  professional athlete (and evidently in-demand graduation speaker) Harrison Butker.He’s got thoughts about your purpose, calling, vocation, life choices . . . and I have thoughts about THAT.If Travis Kelce weren't busy making heart eyes beside Lake Como with the woman Butker quotes only as "my teammate's girlfriend," I'd be curious to know his thoughts.Instead, I'll offer my own in a warm-up to But Not All At Once's sixth season. Episodes Mentioned Today:Girl, That's Not An Apology (Episode 88: Rachel Hollis' Career and Kerfuffle)The Sweetest Days of My Life (Episode 47: An Interview with Brooke Turner)Resources:Full Transcript and Video of Butker's May 2024 Speech at Benedictine College Benedictine's Intentional Culture of InclusionBenedictine Accepts Students of Any FaithButker's May 2023 Speech at Alma Mater Georgia Tech's CommencementThanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com.For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.

Harry, Meghan & A Million Headlines

Welcome to 2023 and a metric ton of royal updates, flip-flopping opinions and journalistic analysis. Recently, royal-watching has been both a sociological study and a Rorschach test; what we see reveals much about us.If you haven't heard the in-depth walk-through of H&M's first three docuseries episodes, listen to The Doc Without Drama before pressing play here. (BTW, an additional 100-minute royal rundown will be live tomorrow on Patreon as thanks for subscribing!) I intended this to be a streamlined chat, but it's far less cohesive than a typical episode. And to be fair, if we were gathered in person with something to sip and snack on, the word count could have doubled easily. There's just so much to unpack. Come back next week for a breakdown of Spare; the publicity gaffes that shifted my opinions; the next steps I'd advise, were H&M my clients; and how the most intense scrutiny since Diana's death may impact the monarchy itself and the family inside it. Recent news stories mentioned:Lady Susan Hussey's bias, resignation & horrendous hostessing; her apologyPrince Harry's "kill number" & hopes of suicide preventionJeremy Clarkson's disgusting columnRoyal family silent about Clarkson's vitriolDisgraced Prince Andrew's security still paid for by familyAndrew included in family's annual Christmas strollHarry is first royal to reference his uncle's "shameful scandal"Meghan given 30-point "how to be a princess" dossier pre-weddingRoyal episodes to explore:Don't Call It A Megxit (January 2020)HRH No More: Sussexit’s Conclusion (January 2020)Megs & Haz Take Hollywood (April 2020)Finding Freedom: A Sussexit Book Report (August 2020)A Royal Rundown: What Comes Next (February 2021)Oprah, Harry, Meghan & Media Madness (March 2021)"Lili? But...": A  Baby's Name & a Brouhaha (June 2021)Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com.For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.

Harry & Meghan: The Documentary Without Drama?

After a sabbatical, we're back with a quick-turnaround episode dissecting the first three episodes of the Sussexes' Netflix documentary. Come back next week for a breakdown of the final three!We mix in a bit of history, context, caveats and perspective, but I anticipate a third episode will come post-documentary where we dive into the Queen's death and funeral; who's gotten new titles; who didn't inherit the ones they were promised; who's in danger of losing theirs; what King Charles' coronation could kick off; how Icky Andrew has been doing; and if Harry's memoir release next month will rock the monarchy or be more of the same.Thanks for your patience, kindness, check-ins, conversations and constant presence in my life even when we're not sharing these conversations every week. Excited to be back and chatting with you again! (So long as no one else tells me I'm sending people to hell or that my children deserve pity for having me as a mother. I touch on that story today and we'll explore a bit more later.)Whether you agree with my royal ramblings or not, I welcome all pleasant and sane messages. Find me at butnotallatonce.com or @butnotallatonce. xoxoOther royal episodes to explore:Don't Call It A Megxit (January 2020)HRH No More: Sussexit’s Conclusion (January 2020)Megs & Haz Take Hollywood (April 2020)Finding Freedom: A Sussexit Book Report (August 2020)A Royal Rundown: What Comes Next (February 2021)Oprah, Harry, Meghan & Media Madness (March 2021)"Lili? But...": A  Baby's Name & a Brouhaha (June 2021)Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com.For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.

The Birds & The Bees

Nothing about growing up is easy, whether you have kids or not. To be candid, my four children have done nothing but make clear how NOT grown up or prepared I am for the realities of life with children in 2022.Today, Meg and Mary Flo of Birds & Bees are here to save us. And maybe our sanity and a whole lot of face while they're at it!Every part of parenthood requires a deep bench and lots of backup. Today, I hope you'll hear how many folks are in your corner. Whether it's learning to label "vulva" with the same calm countenance as "elbow," your backup has arrived.If you're ready for a deeper bench, word-for-word scripts, and even more help in talking to your kids about their weird, amazing bodies and the wild world of procreation, Meg and Mary Flo are offering But Not All At Once listeners a discount! Use BUTNOT20 as a discount code to receive 20% off their online course for parents of kids up to 10 years old. The aim is to get ahead of these topics, establish yourself as an expert, and have many small conversations with your children instead of one awkward big one. We're getting rid of "The Talk" and invite you to join us in a "But Not All At Once" approach to the birds and the bees!Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com.For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.

Where We Are & Where I’ve Been

There aren’t words for today, just loosely connected thoughts and a deep, aching well of feelings. If you need a friend’s voice right now, here’s one. 💗This episode was released earlier today on Patreon. Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love your thoughts, questions, ideas, and everything in between. You can find me at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or ButNotAllAtOnce.com.For extra content, additional episodes, and upcoming guest follow-ups, visit Patreon.