Lights On with Carl Lentz

"Why I Didn't Leave My Cheating Husband" - Laura Lentz Opens Up

In this raw and unprecedented episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down for an exclusive interview with his wife Laura – the woman who chose to stay when 99.9% of people said she should leave. For the first time, Laura opens up about the moment that made her stay, the day-by-day survival strategy that saved their marriage, and the brutal honesty required to rebuild after betrayal. They discuss everything from losing their entire friend group to why Laura went to therapy for Carl's mistakes, and the uncomfortable truths about what really happens in intimate moments after infidelity. From the shock of discovering a hidden life to Christmas alone while Carl was in rehab, this conversation reveals how two people rebuilt from ground zero. Whether you're navigating betrayal, wondering if trust can be restored, or simply curious about what real redemption looks like, this interview offers hope without sugarcoating the cost. Warning: This episode contains discussions about infidelity, trauma, and the kind of honest conversations most couples never have.Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.comSupported by Plana https://plana.org/CHAPTERS:00:00 - "Why Didn't You Walk Out On Me?" The Opening Question02:02 - The Phone Call That Changed Everything: Carl's Childhood Trauma Revealed05:04 - "One Day at a Time" - The Marriage Contract That Saved Us09:01 - When Laura Reads the DMs (And Why Carl Has to Leave)10:47 - The Brad Pitt Test: Would She Have Left?11:53 - God Behind Bars Partnership12:30 - Losing Our Church: The Friends Who Never Called15:31 - How Laura Relearned Her Intuition After Betrayal17:01 - The Beach Conversation That Sent Carl to Rehab18:49 - Christmas Alone: When Healing Meant Separation20:55 - "Laura Must Have Known" - Addressing the Cheap Shots24:41 - Why "Biblical" Advice Almost Destroyed Us30:13 - Plana.org: Help for the Unexpected30:54 - The Friends We Lost (And Why It Feels Good Now)38:42 - "Do You Worry I'll Cheat Again?" The Hard Question42:11 - What She Really Thinks During Romantic Moments45:23 - Euphoric Recall: The Addiction Truth Nobody Talks About48:27 - Why Brutal Honesty Builds More Trust Than Perfect Answers50:22 - The People Who Judge the Loudest Hide the Most53:29 - Open Marriages, Honesty & Why Context MattersSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why Your Kids Don’t Want to Spend Time With You (And How To Fix That)

In this deeply personal episode of Lights On, a father sits down with his wife Laura and daughter to reveal the unconventional family culture that has their kids choosing couch time over parties. They dive into the "corny" traditions that actually work, why confrontation leads to clarity, and how making awkward topics conversational changed everything. From discussing porn at the dinner table to the "no snitch" rule they completely reject, this family shares raw insights on raising emotionally intelligent kids who actually want to be home. Whether you're struggling to connect with your teenagers or wondering why family dinners matter, this conversation offers practical wisdom mixed with laugh-out-loud moments and surprising tears. Warning: This episode might challenge everything you think you know about "appropriate" family conversations.00:00 - Family Culture & Why Our Kids Choose Us Over Parties (Intro)00:53 - Summer Jobs, Stripper Poles & Love Island Drama04:30 - The Father's Day Dinner That Changed Everything11:10 - Why "Corny" Family Traditions Actually Work20:47 - How Close Families Can Be Annoying (The Warning)21:47 - God Behind Bars Partnership22:23 - Confrontation Creates Clarity: Our Family Rules31:02 - The Power of Family Dinners (Harvard Study)40:30 - Breaking the "No Snitch" Culture44:41 - Plana.org: Help for the Unexpected45:23 - Why We Talk About P*rn at the Dinner TableFollow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/ Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/ Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.com Supported by Plana https://plana.org/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I Spent 4.5 Years in Therapy - Here's What Actually Works

In this episode, Carl and Laura Lentz reveal what the growth phase of healing actually looks like after 4.5 years of intensive therapy work. Discover why growth includes failure, conflict, and moments of joy - and why most people quit before reaching this transformative stage. Carl shares his experience completing a rigorous 4.5-year therapy program and why consistency over convenience became the key to lasting change. Laura breaks down how to navigate conflict as a sign of growth rather than regression, and why you need trusted voices (not each other) to tell you when it's time to move forward. They expose the hard truth about dragging reluctant spouses into healing work and reveal why 60-75% of couples who commit to intentional repair work stay together. This isn't about perfection - it's about building a life where even your failures become fuel for something better.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Things You Must Do To Heal After a Breakdown

In this episode, Carl and Laura Lentz reveal the 3-stage healing framework that saved their marriage after infidelity and public scandal. Discover why most people never truly heal from breakdown because they skip the discovery phase, try to heal while sprinting through life, and focus on cleaning up "leaves" instead of healing the root system. Carl shares his transformative experience at Onsite therapy and why being sorry you got caught is completely different from being sorry you made destructive choices. Laura breaks down why 60-75% of couples survive infidelity when they commit to intentional repair work and how removing shame from broken commitments becomes the key to rebuilding trust. This isn't about saving face - it's about transforming the person you're becoming so you never have to repeat these patterns again.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is Why You are Breaking Promises to Yourself

In this episode, executive coach Janet Breitenbach reveals the integrity framework that's transforming high performers and why most people unknowingly sabotage their success. Discover the shocking difference between moral integrity and workability integrity, and learn why doing what you say you're going to do by when you say you're going to do it is the secret to unlocking your potential. Janet breaks down the survival needs keeping you stuck (look good, feel good, be right, be in control) and introduces the game-changing "Be, Do, Have" framework that flips traditional goal-setting on its head. Carl shares vulnerable stories about his own integrity struggles in ministry and how this work radically transformed his leadership. This isn't theory - it's battle-tested wisdom that will help you stop playing small and start creating the life you actually want.Follow Janet at: https://www.instagram.com/janet.breitenbach/Learn more about Novus Global: https://novus.global Take the Accomplish the Impossible Assessment: mpassessment.scoreapp.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.