How to Parent Peacefully. With the Hand in Hand Parenting approach.

#063 How to find your calm again with my two minute nervous system hack

Today I want to share with you my favourite practice for finding my calm again when I’m feeling triggered. In those moments my children need me to be the responsible adult who can regulate my system - who can bring my emotions back into balance again. When you can regulate your emotions, it is the biggest gift to your child because it gives them a sense of safety so they can calm down too. So the practice I share with you today has been massively effective at bringing me back from frustration, back into feeling calm and empathic towards my children. I have so much more to share with you about how to keep your cool and stay calm in the moment so you can be the emotional anchor your child needs. If you’re thinking, yes, that’s for me, I invite you to join my free Masterclass Calm the Chaos in six simple steps - I’ll be sharing a lot more about how you can show up to parenting without losing your cool. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.

#062 The three things I ask myself when I lose it with my kids

I remember a parent asking me a while back how he could take responsibility for the times he lost his temper with his kid. He felt apologising wasn’t enough if he was going to keep going back and making the same mistake again and again. That felt to him like an abusive relationship where the abuser keeps asking for forgiveness only to repeat the same pattern over and over again. So this week I am talking about how we can take responsibility for the times we get triggered and why simply apologising when we lose it isn’t enough. I’m going to share with you the three things I ask myself when I lose it with my kids to make sure I am taking responsibility, learning and growing in the process. I have taken all my learnings, all my tools and strategies for managing my triggers and moving away from regularly losing my temper with my kids into a new Masterclass “Calm the Chaos in Six Simple Steps”. I would love for you to join me, you can sign up here. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.

#061 Three big reasons you get angry - and none of them are your fault

In this week’s episode I talk about why parenting is so hard in this modern world we live in and the three biggest reasons why I believe we get angry and lose it with our kids. When we are feeling calm, patient and well-resourced, when all our needs are taken care of, when we have no worries, we have no stresses, at those times parenting is easy. We know how to be loving, kind, respectful and patient towards our kids. We can take the time to listen to them. We can see things from their side. We can be deeply empathic of their experience - and of course when we are in that place, parenting goes really well. So our number one mission as parents is to take care of ourselves, make sure our needs are met, make sure we are well resourced and our nervous systems are feeling calm and regulated so we can take care of our children. The thing is that there is a lot that gets in the way of that. So today in the podcast I talk about the three biggest reasons we get angry with our kids. When we see parenting with these reasons in mind, we can be more compassionate with ourselves and we can start to take action to be able to show up and parent with patience and empathy. If you would love to learn how to bring these ideas into your parenting to making a lasting shift in your child's behaviour and your relationship with them, I am launching my new course very soon "The Shouting Solution: how to stay calm in the chaos so you can parent peacefully". Stay tuned for more info coming very soon. ​ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.

#060 How to respond to family and friends who don’t agree with your parenting choices

We've all had those comments from well-meaning (or not so well-meaning) family members, friends and even strangers: "If you lift them up every time they cry you'll spoil them", "I would never have dared answer back like that", "Your child is out of control", "You're being too soft on them". ​ So today I'm talking about how you can respond to these types of comments while still keeping your integrity and dignity! If you would love to learn how to bring these ideas into your parenting to making a lasting shift in your child's behaviour and your relationship with them, then doors are open to my Peaceful Parent School. Click here to find out more and book your place. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.

#059 If I don't scold my child will they grow up to be entitled?

We want to raise children who are considerate and kind towards others and who are grateful for everything we do for them, right? A lot of parents worry that parenting in a gentle way without punishments or rewards will encourage children to be spoiled or entitled. Is this the case? Is it possible to raise children with respect and empathy without them turning into little brats who demand everything be done for them? ​ It's easier than you think! In this episode I talk about: how our own beliefs and judgements can block our ability to be empathic towards our children shifting away from domination and control towards empathy and relationship how to look beyond children's behaviour and decode what's really going on for them why children often have a meltdown following a day full of connection and why they aren't being disrespectful how to set limits without harshness or scolding some great tips to model empathy and respect in your family. If you would love to learn how to bring these ideas into your parenting to making a lasting shift in your child's behaviour and your relationship with them, then doors are open to my Peaceful Parent School. Click here to find out more and book your place. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.