The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

Friendship Breakups, Dating After Divorce & Outgrowing Relationships in Midlife with Dr. Darcy Sterling

Relationships don’t just end in midlife — they evolve, fracture, and sometimes quietly fall away.Friendships that once felt effortless can start to feel misaligned. Long-term relationships shift in ways you didn’t expect. And if you find yourself dating again after a divorce or breakup, it’s often with a completely different perspective — and a completely different set of questions.In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Darcy Sterling, licensed therapist and host of We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling, to explore what’s really happening beneath the surface of relationships in midlife.We talk about the emotional complexity of outgrowing people, the reality of starting over, and how to approach relationships differently in this next chapter.This is a conversation about clarity — what fits, what doesn’t, and what you’re no longer willing to ignore.In this episode, we cover:Why female friendships often break down in midlifeHow to recognize when you’ve outgrown a friendship vs. when it’s worth repairingThe emotional reality of divorce after a long-term relationshipWhy dating in midlife feels different — and what women often get wrongAttraction vs. stability: what actually matters the second time aroundHow relationship patterns repeat — even after personal growthA question to consider:Have you ever outgrown a relationship — romantic or platonic — and known it before you were ready to admit it?About the Guest:Dr. Darcy Sterling is a New York City–based licensed therapist and relationship expert specializing in dating, attachment, and emotional dynamics. She is the host of We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling and has appeared across major media platforms, bringing a direct, insightful approach to modern relationships.Follow the show so you don’t miss future episodes.Join the Inner Circle: https://the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning.kit.com/3433416614Want bold guests, unfiltered stories, and iconic midlife insight in your inbox?Listen & FollowThe Iconic Midlife is where smart, stylish women over 40 come to rebrand midlife on their terms.New episodes every Tuesday. Bonus game episode drops on Thursdays.Tap “Follow” so you never miss a moment.Listen on:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning/id1817484587Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4FRDzq3AalXaqfpfWq7dlm?si=7e91db12ba1f4bfaAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ff905ad8-332f-430e-a040-ce1ba5047483/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manningLet’s ConnectSocial media: @theiconicmidlife (show) | @redcarpetroxy (host)• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theiconicmidlifeFree Download: 5 Power Moves Every Midlife Woman Should Be Making​This high-impact worksheet is your shortcut to owning your next chapter—on your terms.Grab your free worksheet here​Need more energy, fewer symptoms, and a better night’s sleep?​I'm obsessed with Hop Box, a women-founded supplement brand designed for our midlife needs.Use code ROXY for 10% off sitewide.​Shop Hop Box now​If you’ve ever wanted real data on what’s actually happening inside your body, I can’t recommend Function Health enough. It’s one of the most comprehensive ways to track your biomarkers, hormone health, metabolic markers, and long-term wellness—without guesswork or overwhelm. This is about informed choices, not fear.If you’re curious, you can join here: Function Health

Game Episode: Scan or No Scan: What’s the Real Risk in Our Health Choices?

Trust your doctor's guidance or trust your own instincts—it's a dilemma that many of us face, and honestly, it can feel like choosing between a rock and a hard place. In this episode, we dive deep into that very question, weighing the merits of medical advice against our gut feelings, especially when something feels off. With a captivating blend of personal anecdotes and thoughtful insights, we explore the landscape of health awareness, particularly for women, and the importance of proactive measures like low-dose chest CT scans. Our guest, who has a family steeped in medicine, shares her journey through a lung cancer diagnosis that caught her completely off guard despite her active lifestyle. We have a fun game at the end where we unpack the trade-offs between early detection and the anxiety of over-diagnosis, because let’s be real, navigating health can sometimes feel like a high-stakes game of Jenga. So, grab your headphones and join us for a thought-provoking discussion filled with witty banter and some serious takeaways! The episode culminates in a heartfelt call to action for listeners, particularly women, to take charge of their health narratives. Speaker B's journey through a lung cancer diagnosis serves as a catalyst for urging others to pursue preventive measures like low-dose chest CT scans. As they share insights from her book, "One Scan Saved My Life," the importance of education and awareness in combating health fears becomes evident. The speakers encourage a culture of open dialogue around health issues, stressing that knowledge is power and urging listeners to involve friends and family in their health journeys. Their discussion is not just about health; it's about community, support, and the collective effort to navigate the complexities of medical care. With a blend of humor and earnestness, they leave listeners with a sense of urgency and empowerment, highlighting that taking proactive steps today could lead to healthier tomorrows.Takeaways:Trusting your instincts can sometimes be more powerful than solely relying on medical advice, especially when something feels off.Having a mindset that believes in health while acknowledging risks can be a balancing act that shapes our health journey.Early detection of health issues can be a double-edged sword, with the potential for over-treatment and anxiety looming large.Humor can play a crucial role in coping with serious health challenges, as it lightens the emotional load we carry.Women over 40, especially those with family histories of certain conditions, should advocate for more inclusive screening guidelines.Maintaining a proactive approach to health, including regular check-ups and screenings, is essential for effective illness prevention and management.LISTEN, FOLLOW & SHAREIf this episode made you think differently, share it with a friend who’s been told “you’re fine” but knows something isn’t right.Follow the show so you don’t miss future episodes.Join the Inner Circle: https://the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning.kit.com/3433416614Want bold guests, unfiltered stories, and iconic midlife insight in your inbox?Listen & FollowThe Iconic Midlife is where smart, stylish women over 40 come to rebrand midlife on their terms.New episodes every Tuesday. Bonus game episode drops on Thursdays.Tap “Follow” so you never miss a moment.Listen on:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning/id1817484587Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4FRDzq3AalXaqfpfWq7dlm?si=7e91db12ba1f4bfaAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ff905ad8-332f-430e-a040-ce1ba5047483/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manningLet’s ConnectSocial media: @theiconicmidlife (show) | @redcarpetroxy (host)• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theiconicmidlifeFree Download: 5 Power Moves Every Midlife Woman Should Be Making​This high-impact worksheet is your shortcut to owning your next chapter—on your terms.Grab your free worksheet here​Need more energy, fewer symptoms, and a better night’s sleep?​I'm obsessed with Hop Box, a women-founded supplement brand designed for our midlife needs.Use code ROXY for 10% off sitewide.​Shop Hop Box now​If you’ve ever wanted real data on what’s actually happening inside your body, I can’t recommend Function Health enough. It’s one of the most comprehensive ways to track your biomarkers, hormone health, metabolic markers, and long-term wellness—without guesswork or overwhelm. This is about informed choices, not fear.If you’re curious, you can join here: Function Health

She Did Everything Right… And Still Got Lung Cancer with Shira Boehler

She did everything right.Healthy. Active. A mother of four. A non-smoker.And still—she had lung cancer.In this episode of The Iconic Midlife, Roxy Manning sits down with investor, healthcare policy advocate, and lung cancer survivor Shira Boehler to unpack a diagnosis that wasn’t supposed to happen—and what it reveals about the gaps in modern healthcare.At 43, Shira went in for a preventative full-body scan with no symptoms, no warning signs, and no reason to believe anything was wrong. What she found instead was Stage 1 lung cancer—caught early not because of the system, but because she pushed beyond it.This conversation challenges everything we think we know about risk, prevention, and what it really means to be “healthy.”In this episode, we cover:Why lung cancer is rising in healthy, non-smoking womenThe dangerous gap in current screening guidelinesWhat happens when you’re told “you’re fine”… and you’re notThe tension between trusting your doctor and trusting your instinctHow access, resources, and advocacy can change outcomesThe emotional reality of facing cancer as a mother of fourWhy early detection isn’t just about science—it’s about accessAbout Shira Boehler:Shira Boehler is an investor, healthcare policy advocate, and founder of the Cancer Doesn’t Care Foundation. After her unexpected diagnosis, she has dedicated her work to expanding access to early detection and pushing for changes in national lung cancer screening guidelines.LISTEN, FOLLOW & SHAREIf this episode made you think differently, share it with a friend who’s been told “you’re fine” but knows something isn’t right.Follow the show so you don’t miss future episodes.Join the Inner Circle: https://the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning.kit.com/3433416614Want bold guests, unfiltered stories, and iconic midlife insight in your inbox?Listen & FollowThe Iconic Midlife is where smart, stylish women over 40 come to rebrand midlife on their terms.New episodes every Tuesday. Bonus game episode drops on Thursdays.Tap “Follow” so you never miss a moment.Listen on:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning/id1817484587Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4FRDzq3AalXaqfpfWq7dlm?si=7e91db12ba1f4bfaAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ff905ad8-332f-430e-a040-ce1ba5047483/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manningLet’s ConnectSocial media: @theiconicmidlife (show) | @redcarpetroxy (host)• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theiconicmidlifeFree Download: 5 Power Moves Every Midlife Woman Should Be Making​This high-impact worksheet is your shortcut to owning your next chapter—on your terms.Grab your free worksheet here​Need more energy, fewer symptoms, and a better night’s sleep?​I'm obsessed with Hop Box, a women-founded supplement brand designed for our midlife needs.Use code ROXY for 10% off sitewide.​Shop Hop Box now​If you’ve ever wanted real data on what’s actually happening inside your body, I can’t recommend Function Health enough. It’s one of the most comprehensive ways to track your biomarkers, hormone health, metabolic markers, and long-term wellness—without guesswork or overwhelm. This is about informed choices, not fear.If you’re curious, you can join here: Function Health

Game Episode: Missed or Misunderstood? Symptoms Doctors Get Wrong with Dr. Eboni Cornish

Are your symptoms being missed… or misunderstood?In this bonus episode of The Iconic Midlife, I’m joined again by Dr. Eboni Cornish for a rapid-fire game we’re calling “Missed or Misunderstood?”I throw out real symptoms and scenarios that so many women experience in midlife—and she breaks down what might actually be going on beneath the surface.From brain fog and fatigue to anxiety, hormone shifts, and everything in between, this is a fast, eye-opening look at why so many women are told they’re “fine”… when they don’t feel it.It’s quick. It’s sharp. And it might change the way you think about your own symptoms.If you haven’t listened to the full episode yet, start there first—then come back to this one. Together, they connect the dots.WHAT WE COVERSymptoms that are often missed vs misunderstoodWhy “normal” labs don’t always tell the full storyThe overlap between hormones, inflammation, and immune functionBrain fog, fatigue, and anxiety—what might actually be driving themHow women’s symptoms are often dismissed or oversimplifiedThe importance of asking better, more specific questionsKEY TAKEAWAYNot everything is as simple as it’s made to seem—and not everything that’s missed is harmless.LISTEN, FOLLOW & SHAREIf this episode made you think differently, share it with a friend who’s been told “you’re fine” but knows something isn’t right.Follow the show so you don’t miss future episodes—and if you haven’t yet, go back and listen to the full conversation with Dr. Eboni Cornish.Join the Inner Circle: https://the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning.kit.com/3433416614Want bold guests, unfiltered stories, and iconic midlife insight in your inbox?Listen & FollowThe Iconic Midlife is where smart, stylish women over 40 come to rebrand midlife on their terms.New episodes every Tuesday. Bonus game episode drops on Thursdays.Tap “Follow” so you never miss a moment.Listen on:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning/id1817484587Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4FRDzq3AalXaqfpfWq7dlm?si=7e91db12ba1f4bfaAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ff905ad8-332f-430e-a040-ce1ba5047483/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manningLet’s ConnectSocial media: @theiconicmidlife (show) | @redcarpetroxy (host)• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theiconicmidlifeFree Download: 5 Power Moves Every Midlife Woman Should Be Making​This high-impact worksheet is your shortcut to owning your next chapter—on your terms.Grab your free worksheet here​Need more energy, fewer symptoms, and a better night’s sleep?​I'm obsessed with Hop Box, a women-founded supplement brand designed for our midlife needs.Use code ROXY for 10% off sitewide.​Shop Hop Box now​If you’ve ever wanted real data on what’s actually happening inside your body, I can’t recommend Function Health enough. It’s one of the most comprehensive ways to track your biomarkers, hormone health, metabolic markers, and long-term wellness—without guesswork or overwhelm. This is about informed choices, not fear.If you’re curious, you can join here: Function Health

Why You Feel Off Even When Your Labs Are “Normal” | Lyme Disease & Dr. Eboni Cornish

So many women hit a point in midlife where something just feels… off.The fatigue, the brain fog, the anxiety, the sense that you’re not quite yourself anymore.You run the labs. You’re told everything looks “normal.”And yet—you don’t feel normal at all.In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Eboni Cornish, a physician specializing in neuroinflammation and complex, often “invisible” illnesses like Lyme disease and autoimmune conditions.We unpack what’s really going on beneath symptoms that are often dismissed or misdiagnosed—especially in midlife—and why Lyme disease is far more widespread than most people realize.This conversation goes beyond the surface. It’s about the gap between what women are feeling… and what the medical system is catching.We talk about how inflammation in the brain and body can show up as brain fog, fatigue, anxiety, and mood shifts—and why so many women are told it’s “just hormones” or “just stress” when something deeper may be going on.If you’ve ever felt like your body is trying to tell you something—but you haven’t been able to get clear answers—this episode will help you start connecting the dots.WHAT WE COVERWhy so many women feel “off” despite normal lab resultsThe connection between Lyme disease and midlife symptomsWhat neuroinflammation actually is—and how it shows upWhy Lyme disease is underdiagnosed across the U.S. (not just the Northeast)The overlap between hormones, inflammation, and autoimmune issuesWhy symptoms like brain fog, fatigue, and anxiety are often misdiagnosedHow the medical system can miss complex, chronic conditionsWhat to do if you feel dismissed or unheard by your doctorKEY TAKEAWAYIf something feels off in your body, it’s worth paying attention to.“Normal” labs don’t always tell the full story.LISTEN, FOLLOW & SHAREIf this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. These are the conversations that help us ask better questions—and stop accepting “you’re fine” when we know we’re not.Follow the show so you never miss an episode, and if you’re enjoying The Iconic Midlife, a quick rating and review goes a long way.Join the Inner Circle: https://the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning.kit.com/3433416614Want bold guests, unfiltered stories, and iconic midlife insight in your inbox?Listen & FollowThe Iconic Midlife is where smart, stylish women over 40 come to rebrand midlife on their terms.New episodes every Tuesday. Bonus game episode drops on Thursdays.Tap “Follow” so you never miss a moment.Listen on:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manning/id1817484587Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4FRDzq3AalXaqfpfWq7dlm?si=7e91db12ba1f4bfaAmazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ff905ad8-332f-430e-a040-ce1ba5047483/the-iconic-midlife-with-roxy-manningLet’s ConnectSocial media: @theiconicmidlife (show) | @redcarpetroxy (host)• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@theiconicmidlifeFree Download: 5 Power Moves Every Midlife Woman Should Be Making​This high-impact worksheet is your shortcut to owning your next chapter—on your terms.Grab your free worksheet here​Need more energy, fewer symptoms, and a better night’s sleep?​I'm obsessed with Hop Box, a women-founded supplement brand designed for our midlife needs.Use code ROXY for 10% off sitewide.​Shop Hop Box now​If you’ve ever wanted real data on what’s actually happening inside your body, I can’t recommend Function Health enough. It’s one of the most comprehensive ways to track your biomarkers, hormone health, metabolic markers, and long-term wellness—without guesswork or overwhelm. This is about informed choices, not fear.If you’re curious, you can join here: Function Health