The School of Greatness

The Childhood Question That's Secretly Running Your Life | Aaron Doughty

There's one childhood question that's secretly running your whole adult life. Aaron Doughty asks it straight: who did you have to be as a kid to receive Mom or Dad's love? Whoever that was became the role you're still performing, the pattern you keep mistaking for your identity. Aaron built a YouTube following of over a million people teaching exactly this kind of subconscious pattern work, and in this conversation he walks through his SHIFT framework for breaking free of people pleasing, self reliance, and the need to be liked. You'll hear why the dark side of people pleasing is buried anger, why setting a boundary can make you look like the bad guy before it makes you free, and why someone else's tension was never actually your job to manage. Aaron also opens up about losing his mom, the message she sent him two hours before she died, and what he now believes real freedom actually feels like. Aaron's Instagram Aaron's YouTube Aaron's Facebook Join The Shift Academy In this episode you will: Learn the SHIFT framework for breaking the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck  Discover why people pleasing is a childhood survival strategy, not a personality trait Recognize the difference between healing someone and enabling them Overcome the fear of being disliked or misunderstood Build a new relationship to boundaries, tension, and authentic expression For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1959 More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Real Reason Stress Is Hurting You | Kelly McGonigal

Your body can't tell the difference between anxiety and excitement. The only difference is the story you tell yourself. Kelly McGonigal has spent her career at Stanford studying that story, and how the way you think about stress can quite literally change your biology, your relationships, and how long you live. She will show you why the fear of stress may be more dangerous than stress itself, and why one built in instinct can stop you from burning out completely once you know how to trigger it. You will learn why depression lies to you, why receiving support feels harder than giving it, why your body has a built in brake pedal for temptation, and what a rescue animal can teach you about earning real connection. There is a reason movement changes your brain chemistry more than almost anything else you could choose, and this conversation will make you rethink every hard moment you have ever tried to avoid. Kelly's Website Kelly on Instagram The Joy of Movement: How exercise helps us find happiness, hope, connection, and courage Amazon Audiobook The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It Amazon Audiobook The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It Amazon Audiobook In this episode you will: Discover why believing stress is harmful may be more dangerous than the stress itself Learn the pause and plan response, a built in instinct that can rebuild your willpower in the moment Uncover the real reason depression takes hold and four ways to work through it Overcome the discomfort of receiving gratitude and support from others Recognize the brain chemistry behind the runner's high and why it makes you more social, not less For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1958 More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Fortune vs. Luck, and Why It Matters | Dr. Tina Seelig

What if the story you keep telling about yourself is the only thing standing between you and everything you want? You will hear the real difference between fortune and luck, and why one of them is completely in your control. Dr. Tina Seelig, a Stanford professor and neuroscientist, breaks down the framework from her book What I Wish I Knew About Luck and explains why the wind of opportunity might be blowing right past you. Tina grew up terrified of things most people never think twice about. She rebuilt her entire risk profile from scratch, one uncomfortable moment at a time. As did Lewis. You will learn why the words other people say about you can become a program running your whole life, and how to finally overwrite it. This conversation will make you rethink every excuse you have ever made for staying small. Tina's Website Tina on LinkedIn What I Wish I Knew About Luck: A Crash Course on Turning Aspirations into Achievements Amazon Audiobook Creativity Rules: Get Ideas Out of Your Head and into the World – A Stanford Guide to Innovation and Entrepreneurship Amazon inGenius: A Crash Course on Creativity – A Stanford Guide Demystifying Innovation for Business Leaders Amazon What I Wish I Knew When I Was 20 - 10th Anniversary Edition: A Crash Course on Making Your Place in the World Amazon Audiobook In this episode you will: Discover the real difference between fortune and luck, and which one you actually control Learn the Risk-O-Meter framework for expanding your comfort zone in every area of life Uncover how the stories you tell about yourself quietly shape the opportunities you see Overcome the fear of asking for help using Tina's framework for making people want to say yes Build the daily habits that compound into extraordinary luck over time For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1957 More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why Your Body Blocks You From Making More Money | Jamie Sea

Your body might be blocking the money you say you want. Jamie Sea walked away from two seven-figure businesses and rebuilt everything from scratch. Now she runs an eight-figure company teaching people how to actually receive the abundance they keep chasing. She calls it the Wealth Container. Five hidden layers decide what your nervous system will actually let you hold onto, and most people are stuck between the same two without even realizing it. This conversation gets into why a simple compliment can feel unbearable, why women might be wired for financial abundance in a way most men rarely tap into, and why shame around money quietly caps what you are able to receive. You will also hear how Jamie learned to make decisions from her body instead of her head. Strategy only runs a fraction of the game. Everything else is you. Jamie on Instagram Jamie's Website Your Money Map The Jamie Sea Show (Podcast) In this episode you will: Learn the five layers of the Wealth Container framework blocking your ability to receive money Discover why women may be naturally wired for greater financial abundance than men Recognize the hidden shame patterns that cap how much you are able to receive Overcome the instinct to deflect compliments, praise, and financial success Build a business strategy rooted in nervous system safety instead of hustle and burnout For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1956 More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The 3 AM Truth That Cost Him $14.5 Million | Matthew McConaughey

He turned down $14.5 million because a 3 a.m. truth wouldn't let him go. Academy Award winner Matthew McConaughey walked away from Hollywood for 20 months. No calls, no offers, no plan B. He talks about the exact moment that decision landed, and why turning down the money changed how the industry saw him. At 20 years old he wrote 10 goals in a notebook, signed his name, and never looked at the list again. Thirty years later he found it while writing his memoir Greenlights. He'd hit all 10. He also opens up about a solo trip through the Amazon where he stripped away every title he'd built, his name, his fame, his nationality, until nothing was left but a mammal, a child of God. That's the moment everything got quiet. Gratitude, fatherhood, and the goal that once felt too big to say out loud. This one will change how you write down what you want. Matthew on Instagram Matthew on Facebook Poems & Prayers Amazon Audiobook Greenlights Amazon Audiobook In this episode you will: Recognize the difference between chasing significance and giving yourself credit for what you've built Build a daily gratitude practice that reciprocates back into every part of your life Learn why writing your goals down by hand changes how your subconscious chases them Discover the exact 3 a.m. moment Matthew knew it was time to walk away from Hollywood Overcome the fear of losing your identity by learning what's left once everything else is stripped away For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1955 More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Lewis Howes Solo [Manifest the Life You Actually Want] Eckhart Tolle Josh Groban Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.