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109: Q&A: Sex questions we’re afraid to ask (but should)

This episode is another Q&A, and I love doing these because the questions always open up such real and juicy conversations. Today, I answer three big ones. They’re not quick yes or no questions, they’re the kind that touch on shame, fear, pleasure, kids, relationships, healing after trauma — all the stuff that makes sex and intimacy feel complicated and human. I share some of my own tools and perspectives that you can actually try in your own life, whether you relate directly to the questions or not. Questions answered in this episode: 1.How do I get over my insecurity with pleasuring a man? I explain how to shift from embarrassment to curiosity, work with the fears underneath, and allow yourself to learn step by step. 2. How can I feel sexual and free when I am also a mom and my kids are in the house? I talk about starting honest sex education early, creating boundaries like locking the door, and doing your own inner work so kids see sex as normal and positive. 3. Can I ever truly enjoy sex after experiencing sexual trauma? I share that deeper healing is possible by working with the subconscious and body, aiming first for emotional neutrality and then for joy and connection. Related episodes: 93: Amazing sex = amazing life. Sexual growth is at the center of all personal growth → Let’s connect! Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

108: Desires – a devoted path to authentic living

In this episode, I talk about desire as a sacred path back to yourself—how wanting (not just needing) is deeply empowering in life and in the bedroom. I share how to recognize true desires, rekindle turn-on with simple practices like fantasy and play, and meet any inner resistance with compassion. We finish with a gentle guided visualization to help you connect with your own desire and take one small, aligned step forward. In this episode, I talk about: How your desires can guide you toward an authentic life Needs vs. desires — why the difference matters Building self-worth and daring to want more Desire as the gateway to your erotic self Why fantasizing is good for your sex life Owning your turn-ons (and turn-offs) without shame Why desire doesn’t have an expiration date A guided practice to connect with what you truly crave This is a recording from a live online event I taught. Enjoy! Join my mastermind SHAMELESS https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless Related episodes: 94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux → 93: Amazing sex = amazing life. Sexual growth is at the center of all personal growth → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

107: Q&A – rebuilding desire, expressing needs, unhealthy fantasies, overcoming shame and MORE

This Q&A is overflowing with bold, vulnerable, and relatable questions from my FREE GROUP COACHING gathering. It’s playful, honest, and deeply empowering. Zero shame, zero filter — only truth, guidance, and pussy wisdom. In this episode, I answer: How to rebuild intimacy and desire after heartbreak in a long-term relationship Keeping the sexual spark alive in long-term relationships How to communicate likes and dislikes in bed without offending my husband How to express wanting a highly sexual partner while dating, without attracting men only seeking casual sex Are any sexual fantasies “unhealthy”? Struggling with arousal after having a child and feeling unsatisfied with quick, non-nourishing orgasms How to tell my partner I want deeper sexual growth and fulfillment when I feel too shy Overcoming shame around quick masturbation after trauma and learning to enjoy “quickies” with myself Why did my body shut down sexually after breakthrough orgasmic experiences at age 57? You can still join the FREE GROUP COACHING with me - it's free!! You the recording from the first session and are invited to the final session on Wednesday, August 27th. https://www.erika-alsborn.com/free-group-coaching Join my mastermind SHAMELESS https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless Related episodes: 91: The language of touch and using sensual massage as a path to deeper relationship intimacy 98: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure! → 90: Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

106: Q&A: brain in the game, pleasure blocks & cervix curiosities

This Q&A episode is packed with real, raw, and relatable questions from my FLOWER POWER event last week. Listen and learn lots! It's fun, honest, and empowering. No shame, no filter – just truth, insight, and lots of pussy wisdom. In this episode, I answer: What does it mean that the brain is the biggest erogenous zone? Why do I feel shame or lack of fulfillment after orgasming quickly? What is de-armoring and how does it help with sexual healing? Can I explore cervical stimulation if I have an IUD? Why can’t I locate my cervix – where is it really? How do I know if a penis is touching the cervix? Is it normal to have structures inside my vagina that feel like tubes? Why do clitoral orgasms feel too intense or make me cramp? What’s the difference between self-pleasure and masturbation? What can I do when I can’t orgasm with a partner due to pressure? You can still join FLOWER POWER - it's free!! You get all the recordings and are invited to the final session on Thursday, August 14th. https://www.erika-alsborn.com/flower-power-blossom-edition Join my mastermind SHAMELESS https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless Related episodes: 98: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure! → 90: Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

105: From girl to woman – Johanna’s SHAMELESS journey of self-source, power & pleasure

In this episode, I’m joined by Johanna, a graduate of my SHAMELESS program, just a few months after she completed the year-long journey. This conversation is full of depth, nuance, and honesty as we explore what it really means to move from codependency and self-doubt to a place of grounded, embodied power. Johanna shares how she went from longing for something she couldn’t name to fully claiming her pleasure, her voice, and her womanhood. In this episode: Johanna’s transformation from insecurity and people-pleasing to grounded self-trust What it means to “choose yourself” and move from girl to woman Releasing the fantasy of a “life script” and embracing self-authored sexuality Rewiring pleasure through consistent self-practice Investing in herself: time, energy, and money, and why it was worth it The beauty of a multi-generational women’s group and being deeply witnessed This one is rich. Johanna’s story is a beautiful example of what happens when we say yes to ourselves and allow transformation to unfold in the body, on our terms. Related episodes: 40: Reclaiming your sexuality as a personal growth journey - Interview with Carolina → 39: SHAMELESS - Magnify your capacity to feel pleasure and be powerful and orgasmic → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Join the waitlist for Shameless: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless