The Free to Be Show

Exploring THE Spiritual Art (For Your Closure)

Exploring THE Spiritual Art (For Your Closure)Why did I begin the Free to be Show?What makes you feel that are not free to exist?For the final episode of my podcast, I am speaking freely about the most normalized form of narcissistic abuse and how you alchemize it.When you experience narcissistic abuse your personality splits into your authentic self and your representative, your mask. It is clinically called Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously known as multiple personality disorder, is a complex psychological condition caused by many things. These include severe trauma during early childhood (usually extreme, repetitive physical, sexual, or emotional abuse). It's also known as split personality disorder. Reference Interestingly there exists a normalized version of this that may lead to a mental health issue over time for BIPOC in general but especially Black women. The first capture of this phenomenon was in the 1903 book, “The Souls of Black Folk,” written by the late civil rights leader W.E.B. DuBois spoke about Black people surviving by highlighting the need for Black Americans to recognize their double-consciousness, or the two parts of their identity: their Blackness and their “Americanness” — or how they were viewed by white Americans. DuBois talked about double-consciousness, and that’s what code-switching is now,” Dr. Barlow adds. “You had to, for your survival, exhibit that double-consciousness.” Reference Jodi Ann Burrey talks about showing up as your “authentic self” at work as a Black woman is the same as not wearing a custom to a Halloween party in her TED talk The Myth of bringing your full authentic self to work.This is the beginning of generational trauma or taught imposter syndrome. Because you are always proving to the world that you are someone you are not. And I say all of this to say that the greatest form of narcissistic abuse that occurs is institutionalized racism. Although the “official” dots have not been connected in the American Psychological Association publication created on September 1, 2021 and last updated January 24, 2023 Psychologists are working to develop more effective ways of promoting Black men’s mental health “Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper. Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper while keeping a distance from my brother because I don’t trust him further than I can see him. It’s believing the cops don’t care about you. It’s learning how not to doubt yourself because when you’re born everyone else already does.”—Poet Prentice Powell, written following the fatal police shooting of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri, in 2014“We should place less emphasis on whether Black men are resistant to therapy,” said Stevenson, “and more on understanding the contexts in which they already feel comfortable talking about their feelings and traumas. If a Black man is able to find a treatment that is culturally responsive, that he understands, and that embraces the uniqueness of his difference, he is more likely to use that service.”And my work is to heal the souls of Black women because they are the pillars of society, the Black crumbling family. As you can see it is a cellular recalibration that has to happen. In my latest book, Detached Love: Transforming Your Heart So That You Can Transform Your Mind, I bring attention to the mitochondria in the thighs. What is interesting about our thighs is that it is the perfect balance of fat and muscle cells, adjacent to our reproductive organs where we not only create but then for up to ten months support, nourish and grow our babies as we experience what we experience and live during conception, pregnancy and nourishing and nurturing postpartum. So now I begin with the sexual/spiritual part of that to rewire who you are on a cellular level. The cellular level being the authentic self. This authentic self occurs in human form when you have a baby although you are oblivious to that until you see the evidence in their personalities. Then you begin to “discipline” them in the way you were disciplined to create them as code-switching palatable beings to fuel the institutions in place which you yourself abhor. The cognitive dissonance of parenting that way baffles you especially when you have daughters. Girls are born strong willed reflectors and you have a choice in every interaction to listen or to ignore, squash and flattened them the way you were. Or to rise above and in your listening hear the echo of your own soul and reparent yourself while reparenting your daughter. What I am saying is to heal yourself you must allow the two Selves to merge through the nervous system, muscle recalibration and the breath all bridges to our soul Self. I wish I could give a simple formula but here I will explain with terms you may have heard. You breathe and the air or wind helps your rivers of plasma, blood and mucous to move in your body. These waters are your electrical system which fires your nervous system and circulatory system. Your inner fire is cultivated in your digestive system and connects to your heart energy affecting your capacity to love or close the heart completely. For example, people with diabetes usually also have high blood pressure. The highest demographic of people with these conditions are Black women. In Unani Tibb imbalance is caused by not honoring the six lifestyle areas (environment, sleep and wakefulness, physical activity and rest, retention and elimination, mental activity and rest and of course food and drink) according to your body type. So in my Four Mind Alignment I guide women back to themselves on a cellular level. They get to create a sustainable system of self-nurturing, loving themselves truly from the inside out, releasing, eliminating and alchemizing toxins and toxic ways of being while merging the authentic self and created representative. That results in them regaining balance, mental and emotional clarity and the ability to exist fully expressed as her true authentic self. Simply put, for the Love of being you.You can begin with my 29 Days of Intimacy calendar on my website. Intimacy, transparency and vulnerability with self is where you must begin. Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and CEO of Cordelia Gaffar Enterprises, is a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast.Cordelia's journey led her to rediscover many ancient body wisdom mindfulness practices, intertwining from aboriginal cultures across the globe. The result? The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022 after two years of client studies and five years of research. I help women of faith to consider pleasure as a possibility resulting in you being multi-orgasmic. Multi-orgasmic aging is that regenerative enlightenment that only cums from within so that you can truly love yourself from the inside out, releasing, eliminating and alchemizing toxins and toxic ways of being while merging the authentic self and created representative. That results in you regaining balance, mental and emotional clarity and the ability to exist fully expressed as her true authentic self.She offers Embodiment Experiences in intimate retreats, inviting women to a journey of self-discovery and replenishment. Cordelia is a former CFO of a tech company and veteran home educator to her six children, three of whom have graduated going on to serve in the US Navy and become entrepreneurs in their own right. Subscribe to the Free to Be Show as we explore joy, enlightenment, and the transformative power of Cordelia Gaffar's wisdom.

Choosing Love Creates Mulit-Orgasmic Aging

This is an excerpt from my series published now as a course, 13 Days to Multi-Orgasmic Aging. This is day three about your choices and understanding the power of that.Listen as I share how I chose to create my first birth story. In my ignorance I chose body -mind wisdom over fear. Reflect on your birth story if you have had a child. Mostly listen for the power and gifts of honoring choices that elevate your each and every heartbeat and breath.#bodywisdom #replnishme #detachedlove #multiorgasmicaging #multiorgasmic #cordeliagaffar #intimacy #selfnurturing #selfloveCordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and CEO of Cordelia Gaffar Enterprises, is a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast.Cordelia's journey led her to rediscover many ancient body wisdom mindfulness practices, intertwining from aboriginal cultures across the globe. The result? The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022 after two years of client studies and five years of research.This transformative methodology empowers women to be fully expressed and completely embodied in her natural leadership merging ancient wisdom for total well-being. Cordelia's approach builds on her Replenish Me (™) process, featured in "Detached Love" (2020), promoting self-nurturing through food, movement, and sleep.Now, she offers Embodiment Experiences in intimate group coaching and retreats, inviting women to a journey of self-discovery and replenishment. Cordelia is a former CFO and veteran home educator to her six children, three of whom have graduated going on to serve in the US Navy and become entrepreneurs in their own right. Subscribe to the Free to Be Show as we explore joy, enlightenment, and the transformative power of Cordelia Gaffar's wisdom.

Soul Love: Your Invitation to Leap Into Your Intimacy

This is the audio version of my recent LinkedIn article Soul Love vs Carnal Ravaging. Visit me on LinkedIn and subscribe to my newsletter there.At the end, I make an invitation to join the 29 day challenge to leap into your intimacy. On my website https://cordeliagaffar.com/, I share all the details of this 29 day DIY experience.I am here for YOU! Reclaim your Ultimate-Joy! You may not realize it but your body wants you back. Be present in your body like never before.It’s leap year, which means that we get 29 days in February!Vibration matters and the vibrational meaning of 29 is(2) Harmony(9) Transformation awakeningand in calendar format you get to experience your intimacy transformation with harmony and balance.There are also journal pages included to capture your experience and voice memos are also highly recommended. Also you may chose to join my private LinkedIn Group (https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12966627/) to enhance your experience.Mindlessness is the Real Issue: Let’s Make DistinctionsThere is sex. And then there is great sex.There is being orgasmic. And then there is being multi-orgasmic.Everyone who has sex is not having great sex.Everyone who has an orgasm may not have more than one.Most women do not have orgasms. Not even one.Most men don’t know that they can have more than one orgasm.Most people don’t know that sex is sacred.Most people don’t know that when you reach orgasm that is a form of enlightenment.My call is back to soul love.#intimacy #soullove #enlightenment #leapyear #healing #medicine

For the Love of Sex and Money w/ Joanna Doiban

Do you feel shame around money? Is it the same for sex? Or is it more for one than the other?This episode is for YOU!In just over 30 minutes you will hear the solution to your internal drama. It is my joy to introduce you to a new friend of mine, Joanna Doiban. She teaches the three pillars of wealth - wealth mindset, money organization, easy-bake-oven “investing” to busy women and moms revolutionizing this male-dominated industry from telling you what to do to educating you on how to utilize money intentionality. With a Bachelors in Finance and a Life Insurance license in dozens of states, Joanna is a trailblazer and thought leader in Financial Self-Care and Wealth Education for women. She is a trailblazer and thought leader on wealth energy and wealth planning for women. She loves to teach female founders adopt wealthy habits (energetically + strategically) so they will always be supported by money throughout their lives Wealth Activator for WomenConnect with her Want to talk money? Let’s grab coffee https://calendly.com/joannadoibanagency/let-s-grab-coffee We can connect on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/joannadoiban/Join my Private FB group to learn how to be a Money Master here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mamamoneymasters Website: www.joannadoiban.com #moneymatters #wealthactivatorforwomen #sexandmoney #moneyandsex #womenhelpingwomen #moneyempowerment #wealth #joannadoiban #theulimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #thefreetobeshow

Sex or Hip surgery it’s your choice

It's a revolution of the heart, a reclamation of the divine feminine within you.Happy #freetobe #fridayHere are the Deep Dives and Discoveries you will experience listening to the Free to Be Show #podcast today👇🏽💎Integrate and normalize your sexuality as a core component of mental and emotional well-being.💎Explore the synergy of nutrition, movement, and spiritual practices in supporting your journey.💎Uncover your authentic self, free from societal conditioning and limiting beliefs.💎Understand your unique responses and experiences in intimacy, and how to channel this knowledge in all facets of your life.It is about:🧘🏾‍♂️How humans can transcend your slave mind☮️The importance of giving yourself permission to be free🥰The importance of beginning within🎉The power of reinventing yourself 💎Embodiment is the the truth and the light 👀Misogynoir 👉🏾it’s your choice to have sex or hip surgery. Listen here https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1dc97cc4-48b5-4ecb-b111-d9f5e09a0182I welcome your questions and comments 👇🏽 below or at hello@cordeliagaffar.comCordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc. As a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast, Cordelia guides women on a transformative journey to normalize great sex resulting in being Multi-Orgasmic!!. Her unique methodology, The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022, empowers women to embrace a Multiorgasmic existence through ancient wisdom. Cordelia's holistic approach, including the Replenish Me (™) process, documented in "Detached Love" (2020), invites women to nurture themselves with food, movement, and sleep. Explore joy, enlightenment, and transformative wisdom with Cordelia on The Free to Be Show!​