012 What Not?

Let's face the naked truth, Victor. You've tolerated too much fcking bullshit for decades. It's time to go hard or go home.

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TRANSCRIPT

When angry, count four.
When very angry, swear.

- Mark Twain

Welcome back, Victor.

This is INVICTUS.

So you just made a nice fairy-driven wishlist for your life, right?

Do you know the problems with those wishlists and why they are useless for most of us?

Want to know the reason many classical coaching concepts never work?

Here's why.

There are no fairies.

Sorry to tell you so.

Life will not grant you anything from your list as long as you don't take specific action toward it.

The list you made is pure fiction and fantasy.

It's nothing but a list of nice-to-haves.

It's a list of dreams.

None of them will ever come true if you don't 'make' them come true.

So, forget the concept of sitting and waiting and dreaming.

Remember, time is running out.

Memento Mori.

Every second you spend in fantasy land is one second less to take action.

Sure, you can keep your wishlist for reference.

No problem, Victor.

However, we encourage you to focus on the facts rather than on fiction.

Thus, we will present you with a much more powerful tool at this point. 

Let's call it the FCK YOU List.

Once more, this list is precisely what the name suggests.

It contains everything that you would loudly shout 'Fck You!' on.

Put on that list everything you are not willing to tolerate any longer.

List everything and everyone that makes you sick.

We encourage you to reveal to yourself the naked truth of your life and the things that are holding you back. 

That's what makes the difference.

The Fck You List is not about fiction and fantasy. 

It's about the current facts.

It's not about things you wish.

It's about things that ARE.

So stop right there with being a victim of your dreams.

Instead, look at the facts as ugly as they might be and become the master of your facts.

Stop lying!

Again, we urge you to leave behind the game of lying, Victor.

The purpose of this drill is to set you free.

It's the facts that will set you free, not the fiction.

We are already in the process of building your armory and preparing for your prison break.

The Fck You List is a crucial part of that armament.

You've tolerated so much fcking bullshit for decades.

You've been spending so much time figuring out someone else's formula, following someone else's ideas.

You've lived so far beneath your potential, beneath your means, beneath what you deserve, beneath what you know you could create.

You've been hiding and sedating yourself, quietening the voice that's been calling you for so long.

It's time to look in the mirror, Victor.

To actually face yourself.

And to face those prison-break questions.

WHAT DO I NOT WANT ANYMORE?

WHAT DO I REFUSE TO TOLERATE ANY LONGER?

WHAT AM I NOT WILLING TO TAKE ANYMORE?

Take your time on this.

Do not rush through it.

Do not underestimate this powerful tool. 

You are about to take the first steps on your road to freedom.

It's worth truly determining what's wrong with your life.

Go hard or go home.

It's okay to dislike what shows up in your life.

It's okay to get angry and to use explicit language here.

It's not the time to be diplomatic.

It's time to get real, raw, and radical.

If you need inspiration, here are some examples from other Victors.

I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I refuse to run the rat race.

Fck you, high cholesterol.

I refuse to live in this fcked-up marriage.

I hate to be broke.

I refuse to take orders from other people.

I refuse to waste my time with those false friends.

I don't want to live in slavery any longer.

Fck you, debts.

I refuse to live on drugs.

I'm sick and tired of my job that barely pays my rent.

Fck you, Facebook.

 I'm sick and tired of being overweight (I'm fat as a walrus)

I hate those useless conversations with my family.

Fck you, Carl (Husband)

Fck you, Sally (Co-worker)

I hate you, cancer.

I hate to disappoint myself.

I hate smoking.

I hate my fat belly.

I refuse to suffer from financial obedience.

I hate to have no real goals in life.

Fck the government.

Fck the fear. 

It's time to clearly illustrate what really fcks your life up, Victor. 

Tell yourself the truth.

Stop lying.

Start writing.

Checkpoint

Put the naked truth on paper and keep your Fck You List for further reference.

Code Line Suggestion

I won't tolerate all that bullshit any longer.

I'm going to be the master of the facts.

Now over to you, Victor.

Take your time to write your all-embracing Fck You List.

It's a crucial tool to have at hand when heading for freedom.

Meet you in the next episode of the INVICTUS Pepcast.

Remember, you are THE ONE.