How do unfaithful partners typically respond differently than hurt partners after an affair? What constitutes an affair - intercourse? Instant messaging? Flirting? How can unfaithful partners take responsibility for the damage they caused and earn forgiveness?
These are just a few of the many questions that leave couples feeling confused about what to do after there has been an affair. Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD has beautifully answered these questions in her book, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful. She normalizes and reassures couples about what they are going through in a way that gives them hope.
That book has been incredibly successful and has sold over 500,000 copies. In addition to that she has written two other books which are linked below. She has been in practice for over 40 years in Westport, Connecticut.
Check out Dr. Spring's website at janisaspring.com
Books
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent
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