A few years ago, Adam spent nine months aggressively paying off $75,000 in debt. He loved it. It gave him a purpose and he was happy to work seven days a week to pay it off quickly.
His girlfriend, Elizabeth, has debt, but she isn’t excited by paying it off. Instead, she feels trapped, describing herself as “dumb” with money. (Notice the words she uses to describe herself and her debt: “disgusting,” “bad,” and “stupid.”)
Adam’s aggressive approach of constantly talking about money isn’t working. Even though he wants to help, she craves emotional security and support. At one point, as Adam is about to go into yet another long monologue, I cut him off.
Sometimes, what worked for you doesn’t work for your partner. Listen in to hear how Adam and Elizabeth navigate their Rich Life.
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159. “How can we raise 3 kids if she only makes $15k?”
158. “We have $2M, why can’t we retire?” (Part 2)
157. “We spent $80,000 more than we made last year” (Part 1)
156. "We have 2 kids, 3 cars...but only 1 month of savings" (Part 2)
155. “We have $22k in cc debt—but I want to renovate the house” (Part 1)
154. “We’re drowning in debt, but I drive a BMW”
153. “We’re married. Why do I have to ask him for money?”
152. “The world is going to end. So why bother investing?”
151. “Our gas is about to get shut off, but I refuse to sell any of my 7 cars”
150. “We’re broke, but I spend $350/mo on clothes” (Part 2)
149. “We have no savings but bought our kid a $500 toy for Christmas” (Part 1)
148. “We have 2 kids and $0 invested, but refuse to get 9-5 jobs”
147. “I don’t trust him with money, so I check his cc accounts”
146. “I'm jealous when I see friends' vacations on Instagram”
145. “Am I a bad mom if we can’t do a $7k Disney trip?”
144. “We make $245K. Why do I have to ask my wife for dinner money?”
143. “I maxed out my credit cards on our $45k wedding. Are we broke?”
142. “We have a $2.3M net worth—but we cut coupons”
141. “We only have $2k in savings but she can’t stop going to the mall”
140. “He put our $1M into one risky investment. Will we lose it all?” (Part 2)
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