Replay: Raising Kids Who Want to Come Home with Andy & Sandra Stanley

What does it mean to "get it right" as a parent?

Not perfectly. Not without regret. Not with some airtight system that guarantees your children will become exactly who you hoped they'd be. But with intention. With humility. With the long view in mind.

In this replay episode of Typology, I sit down with Andy and Sandra Stanley—both Enneagram Ones—to talk about their book, Parenting: Getting It Right. And what unfolds is a deeply honest, practical, and surprisingly tender conversation about parenting toward relationship instead of mere compliance.

Andy and Sandra share how they came to define the "win" of parenting as raising kids who want to be with you and with each other when they no longer have to be. That one sentence is worth the price of admission. We also explore the role of discipline, apology, regret, repair, and why humility may be one of the greatest gifts parents can offer their children.

Whether you are raising toddlers, teenagers, adult children, or looking back with a few regrets and a lot of love, this conversation is full of wisdom, grace, and hope.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why parenting is ultimately about relationships, not rules
• How Enneagram Ones parent—and what happens when two Ones raise a Seven
• The difference between punishment and discipline
• Why learning to repair broken relationships is essential for lifelong happiness
• How parents can live with tension without trying to solve everything
• Why "progress, not perfection" may be the mercy every parent needs

So pour a cup of coffee, take a deep breath, and listen in. This is one you'll want to pass along to every parent you know.