226. Stop Going With the Flow: You’re Allowed to Want Things

Are you “chill,” “go with the flow,” or “totally fine with whatever”? Spoiler alert… that might actually be people-pleasing in disguise. And people-pleasing is basically lying about what you really want.

In this episode, we dig into why going with the flow usually means “I’m too scared to say what I need,” how it creates resentment in relationships, and why your partner actually can’t support you if you never speak up.

You’ll learn how to build a daily fulfillment routine so you start meeting your own needs, drop the pressure and expectations on your partner, and communicate honestly without the guilt spiral. We also talk about why owning your emotions is the secret ingredient to ending people-pleasing for good.

If you’re ready to stop performing, stop mind-reading, and start showing up as the real you in your relationship, this episode is your permission slip.

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