Why Do We Watch Ourselves Live? with Julia Sunderland

2026-01-23

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Is your dating life a lived experience, or just a curated performance? In this episode of Love-ly, Mehak (@whathemehak) sits down with somatic therapist and scholar Julia Sutherland (@JoyfullyJuliaa) to unpack the psychological toll of viewing ourselves from the "outside-in." Together, they unpack the concept of "self-objectification" and why women in particular tend to monitor their external appearances over their internal comfort. From the influence of religious upbringings to the relentless...

Is your dating life a lived experience, or just a curated performance?

In this episode of Love-ly, Mehak (@whathemehak) sits down with somatic therapist and scholar Julia Sutherland (@JoyfullyJuliaa) to unpack the psychological toll of viewing ourselves from the "outside-in." Together, they unpack the concept of "self-objectification" and why women in particular tend to monitor their external appearances over their internal comfort.

From the influence of religious upbringings to the relentless gaze of social media, Julia explains why so many of us feel like we are observing our lives from the outside rather than living them from within. She shares the insights gained from her own 7-day mirror detox, revealing how our self-worth can transform when we stop scrutinizing our reflection and start feeling our existence.

Follow along Julia's somatic journey on TikTok and YouTube.

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