You’re Breaking These Communication Rules (And Don’t Know It)

What if the biggest breakdowns in your relationships…
aren't about what you're saying—
but how you're saying it?

In this episode, I sit down with Betsy Butterick—"The Coaches' Coach" to unpack the communication habits that quietly shape every relationship in our lives.

We talk about the gap between what we intend to say and how it's actually received—and why so many conversations break down before they even have a chance to succeed.

Betsy shares practical, real-world tools that can immediately improve how you communicate—whether you're leading a team, raising a family, or navigating everyday relationships.

If you've ever felt misunderstood… or struggled to communicate clearly with the people closest to you, this conversation will challenge the way you think about connection.

 About Betsy Butterick

Betsy Butterick is known as "The Coaches' Coach"—a communication specialist who helps individuals and teams build stronger relationships through more effective communication.

As a former coach, she understands that "chemistry" isn't random—it's something that is built through intentional connection, with communication at its core.

In her work, Betsy meets people where they are and helps them improve how they communicate, collaborate, and lead. She brings a professional, playful, and people-centric approach to learning and development.

A lifelong athlete and former collegiate basketball player, Betsy applies a high-performance mindset to her work—helping individuals and teams create meaningful change through small, consistent shifts.

 Key Takeaways

• Why "before you tell, ask" is one of the most effective ways to improve communication
• How assumptions derail conversations—and why curiosity leads to better outcomes
• The difference between intention and impact, and why that gap causes conflict
• Why hard conversations feel difficult—and how to approach them more effectively
• How fear of judgment prevents people from asking the questions that matter most
• Why clarity and directness can be powerful—when delivered with the right context
• The role curiosity plays in building stronger, more meaningful relationships