The High Performance Life

Why Modern Life Feels Like Too Much (Here's My Solution)!

This episode is a little different. Instead of me asking the questions… I'm the one in the hot seat. I sit down with longtime friend and creative partner Cheryl Tan—someone who's seen the journey up close for nearly a decade—to unpack the real story behind the show, the LIFE framework, and the seasons of life we don't talk about enough. We go deep into what it actually looks like to build something meaningful while navigating family, business, overwhelm, and identity shifts—especially in this stage of life. We talk about empty nesting, marriage, regret, curiosity, and why most people feel busy… but still disconnected. And maybe most importantly—how to design a life that actually feels like your own. If you've ever felt like life is moving fast… Or you're building something but not sure it's aligned… This conversation will hit! 🔑 Key Takeaways Why most people feel overwhelmed—and how clarity starts by separating what you can vs can't control The real purpose behind the LIFE framework—and how to actually use it in your day-to-day life Why relationships—not transactions—are the foundation of both business and fulfillment The hidden emotional weight of empty nesting—and how to navigate that transition intentionally How to design your "perfect day"—and why most people never take time to define it Why curiosity is one of the most underrated skills for growth, connection, and better conversations The importance of building your next chapter while still living your current one

The Life You Want Will Cost You the Life You're Settling For!

What if the reason you still feel stuck… has nothing to do with your effort, and everything to do with where you're building from? In this episode, I sit down with Keyen Lage—former NFL athlete turned high-performance coach—to unpack why so many successful people still struggle with self-belief, fulfillment, and direction. We go deep into something I think a lot of people miss: the difference between building a life from your head… vs your heart. Keyen shares his journey from reaching the NFL to having that identity stripped away—and how that forced him to rebuild from a completely different place. We also talk about curiosity, faith, risk, and why some of the biggest breakthroughs in life don't come from a plan… but from being willing to follow something you don't fully understand yet. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things but still feel disconnected… this conversation will challenge how you think about success, purpose, and what it actually means to be aligned. About Keyen Lage Keyen Lage is a high-performance coach for ambitious men and a former NFL athlete whose career was cut short by a neck injury. After reaching the pinnacle of professional sport, he was forced to rebuild his life from scratch—shifting his focus toward emotional alignment, relationships, and long-term fulfillment. Over the past seven years, he has built a multi six-figure coaching business, working with Silicon Valley entrepreneurs, professional athletes, and high-level creators. His work centers on helping men eliminate self-sabotage, lead with emotional clarity, and understand masculine–feminine dynamics so they can experience both external success and internal fulfillment. Blending performance psychology with emotional depth, Keyen teaches that true leadership and resilience are not forced—they are the byproduct of alignment. Key Takeaways Why achieving success doesn't guarantee fulfillment—and often exposes deeper misalignment The difference between building from the head vs the heart, and why one leads to self-sabotage Why curiosity—not control—is often the driving force behind meaningful life change How following "what feels right" can lead to opportunities you couldn't logically plan for The role of faith and something bigger than yourself in sustaining long-term success Why environment and surroundings play a critical role in personal growth and identity shifts How self-sabotage often comes from pursuing goals that aren't aligned with who you truly are

You're Breaking These Communication Rules (And Don't Know It)

What if the biggest breakdowns in your relationships… aren't about what you're saying— but how you're saying it? In this episode, I sit down with Betsy Butterick—"The Coaches' Coach" to unpack the communication habits that quietly shape every relationship in our lives. We talk about the gap between what we intend to say and how it's actually received—and why so many conversations break down before they even have a chance to succeed. Betsy shares practical, real-world tools that can immediately improve how you communicate—whether you're leading a team, raising a family, or navigating everyday relationships. If you've ever felt misunderstood… or struggled to communicate clearly with the people closest to you, this conversation will challenge the way you think about connection.  About Betsy Butterick Betsy Butterick is known as "The Coaches' Coach"—a communication specialist who helps individuals and teams build stronger relationships through more effective communication. As a former coach, she understands that "chemistry" isn't random—it's something that is built through intentional connection, with communication at its core. In her work, Betsy meets people where they are and helps them improve how they communicate, collaborate, and lead. She brings a professional, playful, and people-centric approach to learning and development. A lifelong athlete and former collegiate basketball player, Betsy applies a high-performance mindset to her work—helping individuals and teams create meaningful change through small, consistent shifts.  Key Takeaways Why "before you tell, ask" is one of the most effective ways to improve communication How assumptions derail conversations—and why curiosity leads to better outcomes The difference between intention and impact, and why that gap causes conflict Why hard conversations feel difficult—and how to approach them more effectively How fear of judgment prevents people from asking the questions that matter most Why clarity and directness can be powerful—when delivered with the right context The role curiosity plays in building stronger, more meaningful relationships

The TRUTH About ADHD In Adults (WHAT MOST PEOPLE NEVER REALIZE!)

In this episode, I am joined by ADHD coach and podcast host Kristen Carder! Kirsten's mission is to unpack what ADHD really looks like in adulthood, and why so many people grow up believing they're lazy, disorganized, or broken when the reality is far more complex. Today, Kristen shares her own journey from struggling to find her purpose to building one of the most recognized podcasts and coaching communities for adults with ADHD. Together, they explore the everyday realities of living with ADHD—from time blindness and overcommitment to creativity, relationships, and parenting. They also dive into why ADHD often goes undiagnosed for decades—especially for women—and how understanding your brain can transform the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your potential. If you've ever felt like you're capable of so much more but can't quite figure out why certain parts of life feel harder than they should… this conversation may help connect the dots. About Kristen Carder Kristen Carder is a multi-certified life coach, educator, and host of the I Have ADHD Podcast, which has reached millions of listeners around the world. After years of tutoring students who struggled in school, Kristen began noticing a pattern: many of the families she worked with were navigating ADHD—but there were almost no resources available for adults trying to understand their own brains. That realization led her to launch the I Have ADHD Podcast in 2018, which quickly grew into a global platform supporting adults with ADHD through education, coaching, and community. Kristen now leads the Focused coaching program and helps thousands of adults better understand their ADHD, regulate their emotions, and build lives that work for the way their brains are wired. Her work centers around helping people break free from shame, self-criticism, and the belief that they're simply "not trying hard enough."  Key Takeaways Why ADHD is often misunderstood as laziness or lack of discipline How ADHD brains are driven by interest, urgency, and novelty—not traditional motivation The concept of "time blindness" and why people with ADHD struggle with deadlines and lateness Why ADHD often runs in families and can become normalized across generations How ADHD can impact relationships when partners feel like managers or parents Why understanding your strengths—and designing life around them—is key to thriving with ADHD The connection between ADHD, emotional regulation, and childhood experiences  

Expert Psychologist: This Is Why You Keep Repeating The Same Mistakes

After 45 years of helping families, couples, and individuals, Dr. Larry Waldman has seen the same patterns repeat themselves again and again. Fear of failure. Avoiding help. Self-sabotage. And the powerful ways childhood shapes the adults we become. In this conversation, Dr. Waldman shares lessons from nearly half a century in clinical psychology, working with marriages on the brink, struggling parents, high performers battling imposter syndrome, and individuals trying to break free from the stories they tell themselves. We talk about why people resist getting help even when they desperately need it, how early childhood experiences quietly shape our mindset for decades, and why fear of failure keeps so many people stuck in careers, relationships, and situations they know aren't right. Dr. Waldman also shares deeply personal reflections about his own upbringing, his father's struggles in business, and the lessons that shaped his life and career. This episode is full of practical wisdom about parenting, relationships, personal responsibility, and the mindset shifts that allow people to move forward, even when life feels uncertain. About Dr. Larry Waldman Dr. Larry F. Waldman, Ph.D., ABPP is a Phoenix, Arizona licensed clinical and forensic psychologist who recently became semi-retired after a 45-year private practice. Over the course of his career, he worked with children, teens, parents, couples, and adults, and consulted with attorneys in areas including family law, personal injury, immigration, and estate planning—all while navigating the life of a successful entrepreneur and raising two sons. He earned degrees from the University of Wisconsin and the University of Wisconsin–Milwaukee, completed his Ph.D. at Arizona State University, and received Diplomate status (ABPP) in 2003. Dr. Waldman has served in leadership and advisory roles across the profession, including: Past President of the Maricopa Psychological Society Director of Psychological Services at Charter Psychiatric Hospital of Glendale Adjunct graduate professor in counseling He is also certified as an ACE senior fitness specialist and a certified yoga instructor. Dr. Waldman is the author of eight books and a seasoned speaker who brings practical, engaging "edutainment" to topics like parenting, marriage, stress, business psychology, and personal development. 🔑 Key Takeaways Why many people still avoid seeking mental health help—even when they clearly need it The stigma around mental health and how it prevents people from improving their lives The fine line between coaching and therapy—and why having someone to talk to is critical for growth Why imposter syndrome and fear of failure often hold people back in their careers How childhood experiences and parenting styles shape confidence, resilience, and independence The powerful role parents play in shaping their children through everyday behavior—not just words Why trying—even when you fail—is always better than staying stuck in fear