Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 146 of our show. We’re so happy that you’re here with us for the show. Today Stuart is discussing an all too common scenario for couples: When two people in a committed relationship end up living like roommates instead of lovers. Listen in while Stuart addresses this familiar problem.
Stuart often talks about the significance of 6 years. That’s the average amount of time that couples live with their problems before they seek help from a relationship counselor. Those 6 years can be a time of strife and conflict; or it can be a time of reducing your relationship to living as roommates. This is a terrible feeling either way. Feeling alone is so painful.
What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
The pain of having roommates [2:25]
It’s painful to live without connection [4:00]
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together [8:20]
Hallway sex- Where’s the passion? [9:04]
Why you need to keep passion a priority [10:40]
How to keep it interesting; keep your partner in mind [12:12]
No one wants a roommate when they can have a great love [22:25]
If you’re living separate lives, you aren’t working on your relationship. In order to keep the passion and the love alive, you must make your relationship the priority. Spend time together, have adventures and make memories. It’s all about the connection and keeping that passion for your life together. Keeping that emotional connection is the only way to keep your relationship from deteriorating into roommate status.
We cannot assume our partner knows how important they are to us. We have to never take them for granted, and to always let them know that they are the most important person in life to us. Invest your time and care into your relationship. Surprise your partner, send them gifts, show them that you’re thinking of them. Court them, keep the romance alive. In order to avoid the roommate feeling you have to keep the passion alive.
Take your partner and get away a couple of times a year. Date nights once a month, or more often as possible. These things are crucial to avoiding the roommate issue. It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you can find the time if it’s important to you. Don’t make excuses, don’t cop out. This is important. Treat your relationship with the care and concern it deserves. Be kind and sweet to one another and keep your emotional connection strong. It takes commitment on both your parts. It’s not always easy, but it’s so worth it.
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