If you base your entire identity around achievement, as many high achievers do, the consequences can turn fatal - internally. While building an identity around achievement can work in the short-term, you must eventually face the reality: A big part of your drive to achieve is deeply rooted in fear. This fear creates an internal friction that steals joy and presence from your life and gives you anxiety and disconnection and shame instead. But what if you could experience life without the constant grip of fear? The good news is you can get ...
If you base your entire identity around achievement, as many high achievers do, the consequences can turn fatal - internally. While building an identity around achievement can work in the short-term, you must eventually face the reality: A big part of your drive to achieve is deeply rooted in fear.
This fear creates an internal friction that steals joy and presence from your life and gives you anxiety and disconnection and shame instead.
But what if you could experience life without the constant grip of fear?
The good news is you can get rid of it. The solution sounds quite simple, but it's not easy.
The solution?
Letting go.
But letting go likely feels harder than the years you spent striving. Because letting go isn't a decision. It's a physiological state. It happens when your nervous system finally believes it's safe.
And once you feel safe internally, the color comes back to your life, the anxious thoughts drift away into the background, and your presence returns.
In today's show, you'll discover the 5-step system of letting go. If you've based your life around your achievements, this might be the most important podcast episode you ever listen to.
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Show Highlights Include:
- Why are so many post-exit founders haunted by a deep unsettling sense of emptiness (and how to build yourself back up when you've outgrown your usefulness) (2:26)
- Here's the cold, hard truth about why letting go and allowing yourself rest feels impossible (4:41)
- Why fear drives the vast majority of achievement (even if you don't think fear drives you) (8:29)
- How control morphs from being a coping mechanism into the very thing preventing you from clarity (10:10)
- The physiological reframe that makes letting go easier (11:57)
- Why strategy alone can't regulate your nervous system (and how to cultivate inner safety that glides instead of grips) (13:10)
- The insidious identity void that high achievers try to avoid but is a necessary final step towards letting go (18:31)
For more about David Tian, go here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/
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