Ep 97 Description:
“If that's something that I could encourage other pregnant people to do, is to try to have that clarity about their wants and their needs and their desires, and then to verbalize from a place of clarity to their provider. That inner state of clarity is very important in the conversation.” —Nicole Heidbreder
“My job was to not try to fix things and be more of a listener.” —Amir Niroumand
While vaginal birth is often seen as the ideal, for many birthing experts a medically-necessary cesarean section is the safest option. However, the sterility and clinical nature of surgery can make cesareans feel less personal than desired. But with intentional planning, cesareans can still honor a person's needs and vision for birth.
In this episode, we are joined by DONA International approved Birth doula trainer, Nicole Heidbreder and her partner, Amir Niromand. As a labor and delivery nurse and birth doula of many years, Nicole had clear visions for her own birth plans. However, after struggling to conceive for over a year and experiencing multiple miscarriages, she was forced to reconsider everything.
Nicole and Amir discuss their journey trying to conceive for over a year, which included multiple miscarriages. Nicole explains how her history as a labor and delivery nurse and doula led to shifting her birth plans after being diagnosed with fibroids. She details emotionally accepting surgery and a planned cesarean. Nicole created a supportive medical team and shares her vision for a "magnificent cesarean" honoring her, Amir, and their transition to parenthood, outlining her birth and postpartum plans.
Tune in and learn the importance of grieving loss, the role of clear communication with medical providers, the impact of community support, and the power of crafting a birth centered on the birthing person's needs, voice, and choice.
If you are a doula, nurse, midwife, or birth worker who would like to expand your practice with pleasure and Orgasmic Birth - Learn more at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/orgasmic-birth-practitioner-training/
Debra also has a class on positively preparing for a cesarean or a VBAC vaginal birth after cesarean https://orgasmicbirth.thinkific.com/courses/cesarean-vbac
Connect with Debra!
Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com
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Episode Highlights:
02:59 pregnancy and Loss
10:43 Shifting Birth Vision and Creating a Supportive team
16:42 Grief and Healing After Pregnancy Loss
20:48 Preparation for a Planned Cesarean Section
26:43 Postpartum Preferences
32:10 The Role of the Community in Providing Supportive Care
34:39 Honoring the Mother’s Voice and Choice
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It’s a Business Doing Pleasure! with Alexandra Fine
VBAC Facts: Demystifying Common Misconceptions with Decades of Evidence with Jen Kamel
Tips for a Gentle Cesarean Birth with Debra Pascali-Bonaro
It's Not Pain, It’s Power with Carina Devi Part 2
It's Not Pain, It’s Power with Carina Devi Part 1
How To Have A Lot More Wow And A Lot Less Ow In Labor with Rachel Yellin
Psychedelic Cervix: Can Childbirth Evoke Pleasure Instead of Pain with Dr. Jenny Martin
5 Pillars of Pleasure with Lovisa Dahl
Beyond the Hospital: Reclaiming Birth Autonomy with Dr. Stuart Fischbein
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ep. 88 - Empowering Your Birth: Sabine Dietz's Positive Journey in a Hospital Setting
ep. 87 - Insights into How and Why Informed Choice Matters
ep. 86 - Empower Your Birth: Transforming Trauma into Pleasure with Moran Liviani
ep. 85 - Lisa Strohdach's Journey to a Harmonious Breech Birth at Home
ep. 84 - Embracing Pleasure: Breaking the Taboo of Orgasmic Birth
ep. 83 - Empowering Birth: Insights for a Positive Experience and Pleasurable Birth
ep. 82 - A Mothers View as a Doula : Ushering in the Next Generation
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