Debbs Murray: Coercive control in relationships - what it really looks like

Debbs Murray endured nearly eight years of coercive control before her dad saw the knife-slashed bed where her ex-partner thought she'd been sleeping... that moment forced her to finally call the police and leave.

Debbs is now the founder of Eclipse Family Violence Services, training over 6,500 frontline responders and practitioners. Her mission: teaching people that coercive control - the psychological, emotional, unseen harm - makes up the majority of family violence. It's the intentional removal of someone's liberty and freedom, yet most of it isn't criminalised in New Zealand.

You can buy Debbs' book here.

Content warning: This episode discusses suicidal ideation and extreme violence

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