Advice on Serving Parents & Raising Children

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

1) As children grow older and marry, many visit their parents less and often neglect their needs at old age. Allahﷻ ordered for children to be of service to their folks and to treat them with kindness.

Learning from my life as a child/parent, I wish to have kept very close to my late parents when I just married. Time flew by very quickly as we built our own families, and the drifting away from our parents creates a void in their hearts and a loss of blessings in our lives. Before you know it, they have left this temporary abode.

2) When you marry, don't make your parents feel that they had lost a child. Instead make them feel that they gained another child (your spouse).

3) My parents are deceased, can I still be of service to them?

4) There is a living Wali in every righteous mother. Hence, a righteous child will first seek the dua and blessings from his mother and father.

5) Parents with young children or those yet to be married must take note of a very important establishment in early childhood in order for their children to grow up practicing Islam with ease.

6) Children develop their ego at 11 years old. Hence you must know the importance of organising a schedule and a regular system of worshipping, from very young. What is the best age to begin teaching Islamic and Tariqah practices to our children?

7) What is the most effective method of implementing Islamic practices like Solah and Quranic memorisation?

8) Does my child think “What is important to my parents, important to me?”

Parents need to be an example to, and to worship with, your children. They learn by example.

Replace all swear words and unIslamic exclamations with Zikrullah. Build the habit from young. Learn the simple daily duas or simply recite Basmalah at every act.

Please do listen to the full Sohbah and answers to the questions above.

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