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3 Things Christians Do That Shut Down Healing After Betrayal, #593

If you're trying to heal after betrayal, you may be doing everything you were taught to do—and still feel stuck. Sometimes we unintentionally sabotage our own healing—all in the name of love and forgiveness. Instead of feeling better, you end up feeling silenced, unsafe, and confused about why healing hasn't happened.  Author and counselor Tammy Gustafson joins Juli to share four necessary phases of healing, and three common mistakes that actually shut it down.  With clinical insight and biblical wisdom, this conversation will help you move forward with strength and hope.  Guest: Tammy Gustafson, LPC   Follow-up Resources: Preorder Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal (comes out Jan. 27) Register for The Betrayal Healing Conference, January 26-30. (It's online and free.) Take the Betrayal Healing Quiz  to find what phase of the journey you're in. Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me?  Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal? Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage by Drs. Chuck and Mike Misja (for the betrayed spouse who stays in a marriage even though their spouse is not doing the work needed to heal) Follow Tammy at @tammylgustafson Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy    

Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You're Asking Us, #407

There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could it be an issue of spiritual maturity for some of us—whether we're married or single? Can it be used in a healthy way in marriage? Join us to have your thinking challenged! Co-host: Hannah Nitz Tell us what you thought of this conversation!  Leave a rating & review, Share this episode. Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study! Follow-up resources: Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (Juli's blog) What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog) Is Masturbation a Sin? You May Be Asking the Wrong Question (Juli's blog) Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

The Love Language that Matters Most with Dr. Gary Chapman, #592

What if knowing your loved one's love language isn't enough? Kicking off this new year, Juli sits down with Dr. Gary Chapman to unpack how it is that we can know each other's love language and still feel disconnected. Whether you're married, parenting, or navigating close friendships, this episode will challenge you to love more intentionally—and more effectively. Guest: Dr. Gary Chapman   Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study! Pre-order The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman, Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott  

Sex, Cancel Culture, and the Church: How to Pursue Unity When we Disagree, #520

As we wrap up 2025, this is the conversation God put on Juli's heart. Juli and Hannah sit down to talk about how we love each other when we disagree. This conversation invites you to rethink how you engage in tough conversations and what it really means to contend for truth with love.  Give to Authentic Intimacy today! Between now and January 31st, your gift will be matched dollar-for-dollar—up to $70,000.   Follow-up Resources: Until Unity  by Francis Chan Q&A: How do you love people you disagree with? How We Love Each Other by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)  

Unpacking Emotional Baggage (One of Our Most Popular 2025 Episodes), #568

Grab your Java for one of our most popular episodes of 2025! This conversation with Dr. Dan Allender helped us understand why the stuff we haven't dealt with from childhood eventually shows up—right in the middle of our relationships. Listen in to find out why you must be willing to explore your own story in order to create safety and repair what's broken. Guest: Dr. Dan Allender Give to Authentic Intimacy today and your gift will be matched dollar-for-dollar, up to $70,000! Follow-up Resources: The Deep-Rooted Marriage by Dr. Dan Allender Follow Dr. Dan at @danballender Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy