The Disciple-Making Parent

122 Chap Bettis: Biblical Conflict Resolution Part 3 - The Call to Go and Restore

On this episode of The Disciple-Making Parent podcast, we continue our four-part series on biblical conflict resolution. We'll talk about why conflict is part of everyday life and how Scripture helps us respond with wisdom. We review the first two steps from Ken Sande’s The Peacemaker and then focus on the decision point: when should we overlook an offense, when should we submit, and when should we go and gently restore.We walk through helpful criteria for making that call, like impact, responsibility, frequency, seriousness, and whether the issue is public or private. Then we cover practical, Christlike communication that aims for reconciliation, including listening well, asking clarifying questions, speaking humbly, and choosing the best setting for hard conversations. We also close with a clear warning about gossip and slander, and how to seek wise help without spreading harm. Topics Covered in This Week’s Podcast01:20 Review02:30 Go, overlook, or submit?11:20 Wisdom for when to approach18:13 Go and gently restore39:39 Getting help while avoiding gossipResources From This PodcastBiblical Conflict Resolution Part 1- Introduction and the Call to Glorify GodBiblical Conflict Resolution Part 2- The Call to Get the Log Out of Our Own EyeThe Peacemaker, by Ken SandePursuing Peace, by Dr. Robert Jones

121 Chap Bettis: Biblical Conflict Resolution Part 2 - The Call to Get the Log Out of Our Own Eye

On this episode of The Disciple-Making Parent podcast, we continue our four-part series on biblical conflict resolution with part two, focusing on the essential practice of examining ourselves before addressing conflicts with others. We explore Jesus' teaching about removing the log from our own eye before pointing out the speck in someone else's eye, and why this principle is foundational to resolving disagreements in a God-honoring way.We discuss how to conduct an honest self-examination, looking at both our actions and attitudes that may have contributed to conflict. We explore common blind spots like argumentative spirits, passive-aggressive behavior, and the tendency to see ourselves as more righteous than we actually are. We also examine how leaders in particular need to be willing to acknowledge their blind spots and the impact their words and decisions can have on others. In the second half of the episode, we break down Ken Sande's Seven A's of Confession—a practical framework for asking forgiveness in a way that's genuine, specific, and transformative.We learn the difference between saying "I'm sorry" and truly asking for forgiveness, and why details like addressing everyone involved, avoiding qualifiers like "if" and "but," and accepting consequences matter so much in the reconciliation process. Whether you're navigating conflict in marriage, parenting, church leadership, or the workplace, this episode equips us with biblical tools to own our part, confess well, and move toward genuine restoration. Topics Covered in This Week’s Podcast02:00 Review04:49 Principle 2: Get the log out of your own eye09:34 Questions for self-examination14:43 Examining our own desires20:37 Applications25:46 Confession and forgivenessResources From This PodcastBiblical Conflict Resolution Part 1- Introduction and the Call to Glorify GodThe Peacemaker, by Ken SandeWisdom and Justice vs. Lack of Wisdom and Injustice

120 Chap Bettis: Biblical Conflict Resolution Part 1 - Introduction and the Call to Glorify God

On this episode of The Disciple-Making Parent Podcast, we begin a four-part series on biblical conflict resolution. We explore why conflict is inevitable in relationships—whether between spouses, parents and children, siblings, or within church and workplace settings—and examine what instruction God actually gives us for navigating these difficult situations.We establish that the first and most essential principle in any conflict is to glorify God and please Him above all else. Rather than focusing on controlling outcomes or changing the other person, we learn to ask: "How can I please God in this situation?" This vertical focus keeps us anchored to biblical commands rather than our emotions, and reminds us that we can always control our own response, even when we can't control the conflict's resolution.We conclude by considering the practical question: How would Jesus live in my situation right now? By aiming to act, react, and pray like Jesus—empowered by the Holy Spirit—we position ourselves to grow through conflict and pursue reconciliation in a way that honors God, regardless of the other person's response.Resources From This PodcastThe Peacemaker, by Ken SandePursuing Peace, by Dr. Robert JonesThe True Bounds of Christian Freedom, by Samuel Bolton Topics Covered in This Week’s Podcast02:02 Introduction05:40 The Origin of conflict09:37 Our God of peace15:48 Types of conflict21:18 Glorify God29:03 Final rewards

119 Chap Bettis: Running Through the Tape - Biblical Thoughts for Dying and Old Age

On this episode of The Disciple-Making Parent, we explore one of life's most avoided topics: death and dying.We'll listen to a recent sermon from Chap where he talks about how Christians shouldn't fear talking about our final departure and what it means to "run through the tape" rather than coast into the finish line. We examine five biblical principles for facing old age and death with faith and joy, drawing from Paul's final words in 2 Timothy 4. We discuss how death is not the end but a portal to something better, why we should anticipate suffering in our final years, and how to keep our eyes fixed on Christ and heaven even as our bodies decay. We also wrestle with the physical, emotional, and social suffering that comes with aging, and why we should strive for joy instead of becoming sour in our later years.This conversation challenges us to develop a biblical strategy for finishing well, longing for heaven, and glorifying God even in our dying. 

118 Jai Paul: A Biblical Understanding of Work

On this episode of The Disciple-Making Parent Podcast, we explore a biblical understanding of work with a sermon from Jai Paul. In it, we’ll examine how our perception of work shapes not only our own lives but also the values we pass on to our children and grandchildren.Jai explains how work was established by God before the fall as a good and noble calling. Unlike ancient myths that portrayed work as a burden or punishment, the Bible reveals that God Himself is a worker, and that humans were created in His image to work and create.He explores four key questions:Where did work come from?Why is work so hard?Can work be renewed?How should we work?Join us as we discover how our work can honor God and love our neighbors rather than simply serving as a means to personal gain. We also highlight how training our children to serve is one of the seven essential commitments of discipleship parenting. —To learn more about Jai Paul and JP Cross Ministries visit: www.jpcross.org