From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer

You Can Face What You Fear

Avoidance is one of the most common reactions to emotional pain. It shows up as silence, staying busy, withdrawing, shutting down, or convincing yourself that “things will sort themselves out.” At first it feels protective. Over time, it becomes its own form of suffering and keeps couples stuck in the very patterns they’re trying to escape.In this episode, Geoff and Jody explore how avoidance operates in both partners after betrayal and how safely facing difficult truths creates genuine movement in the relationship.What We Cover:For the Betrayed PartnerWhy avoidance often becomes a survival responseHow overwhelm, exhaustion, and cultural pressure to “keep the peace” silence your real needsThe difference between consciously pausing and unconsciously shutting downFor the Recovering PartnerHow shame and fear fuel hiding, minimizing, and delaying accountabilityWhy avoidance blocks repair and prolongs fearThe honest question every recovering partner must answerFor the CoupleHow both partners can slip into a shared pattern of avoidanceWhy comfort, silence, and homeostasis can feel safer than truthHow one partner naming avoidance begins to shift the entire dynamicRemember...avoidance feels safe in the moment, but it interrupts healing.______________________________Download the Free Resource: You, Me, Us - A Way Forward After BetrayalWhen betrayal has shaken your relationship, it can feel impossible to know where to begin. This free 15-minute video and companion worksheet will help you steady yourself, support your partner, and begin caring for the relationship between you. Get your copy here.______________________________Join the Courageous Together™ ProgramCourageous Together™ isn’t just another course, it’s a trauma-informed roadmap that holds both of you in the healing process. If you’ve ever wondered “Where do we even start?” After betrayal, this program gives you the clarity and structure you need. It meets the betrayed partner’s need for safety while guiding the recovering partner toward real accountability, creating a path forward that neither of you has to figure out on your own.You’ll have access to:A structured healing framework with step-by-step guidanceVideo lessons and worksheets to build safety, accountability, and connectionThe option to join live group circles and support calls with meA private, secure community of others walking the same pathLearn more and join us inside Courageous Together: www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together______________________________Stay ConnectedWebsiteYouTubeInstagramFacebook______________________________Watch on YouTubePrefer video? You can watch full episodes of From Crisis to Connection on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/@FromCrisistoConnectionPocast.______________________________About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) with 25+ years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from the devastation of sexual betrayal and broken trust. I am the founder of the Courageous Together program, co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, and co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn. My work integrates trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and practical tools for creating lasting safety and connection. I’ve been married to my wife, Jody, since 1996 and we are the parents of four children.About Jody SteurerJody is the co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, where she brings her thoughtful, common-sense perspective to conversations about healing, trust, and connection. She earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA-certified coach. Jody has years of experience in corporate training, small business leadership, and family life, and raising four children (two of them neurodivergent). She loves watercolor painting, landscape design, spending time outdoors, and snow skiing.

A Holiday Message from Us

The holidays can stir up a full range of emotions, especially when you are carrying the weight of relational pain or the uncertainty of the healing process. In this episode, we step away from our usual structure and simply sit with you, offering a personal message of support for the weeks ahead.We talk about giving yourself permission to be where you are, without pressure to feel a certain way or perform a picture perfect holiday season. We explore the importance of honoring your yes and your no, creating space for relief, grief, joy, overwhelm, and everything in between. We also speak directly to those walking through separation, fresh discovery, or ongoing tension during a time that is supposed to feel warm and connected.Our hope is that this conversation feels like sitting at our kitchen table with us. You get to be honest about what you are holding this year, and you get to build the holiday you can manage, not the one you think you should create.You will hear us talk about: Giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are this seasonWhy pressure to be okay makes the holidays harderHow to identify a strong yes and a strong noWays couples can coordinate and protect their relational needsSupport for those not spending the holidays in familiar or expected waysThe unpredictability of grief and how naming emotions brings reliefAllowing joy without guilt, even while doing deep workWhy small moments of peace matter when you are carrying a lotIf you are looking for steadier footing through the holidays and beyond, our Courageous Together program can hold both of you through this process. It is a trauma informed roadmap designed to help couples understand where they are, where they are going, and how to work together while protecting the betrayed partner and supporting the recovering partner’s accountability.Inside the program you will findWeekly group circles for betrayed partners, recovering partners, and couplesA full video course that walks you through every stage of healingAnonymous Q and A support with GeoffTools, worksheets, and a guided path you can follow at your own paceA community that stays with you for as long as you need helpYou can learn more and join us at https://www.courageoustogetherprogram.com/ 

What Really Determines Whether Healing Moves Forward

After betrayal, even small mistakes can feel enormous. A forgotten detail, a defensive tone, or a moment of old behavior can land like a major setback. In this episode, Geoff and Jody talk about why these moments feel so threatening and what actually determines whether healing moves forward or shuts down.What we cover:For the Betrayed PartnerWhy even small slips feel like confirmation nothing has changedHow fear and past harm amplify the momentWhat she’s really looking forFor the Recovering PartnerWhat creates defensiveness or hidingWhy the response matters more than the mistakeThe choice points that build or break trustFor the CoupleHow repeated patterns shape safetyWhat actually reveals more than behaviorWhat real progress looks like in moments of rupture______________________________Download the Free Resource: You, Me, Us - A Way Forward After BetrayalWhen betrayal has shaken your relationship, it can feel impossible to know where to begin. This free 15-minute video and companion worksheet will help you steady yourself, support your partner, and begin caring for the relationship between you. Get your copy here.______________________________Join the Courageous Together™ ProgramCourageous Together™ isn’t just another course, it’s a trauma-informed roadmap that holds both of you in the healing process. If you’ve ever wondered “Where do we even start?” After betrayal, this program gives you the clarity and structure you need. It meets the betrayed partner’s need for safety while guiding the recovering partner toward real accountability, creating a path forward that neither of you has to figure out on your own.You’ll have access to:A structured healing framework with step-by-step guidanceVideo lessons and worksheets to build safety, accountability, and connectionThe option to join live group circles and support calls with meA private, secure community of others walking the same pathLearn more and join us inside Courageous Together: www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together______________________________Stay ConnectedWebsiteYouTubeInstagramFacebookIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review! We’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey.______________________________Watch on YouTubePrefer video? You can watch full episodes of From Crisis to Connection on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/@FromCrisistoConnectionPocast.______________________________About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) with 25+ years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from the devastation of sexual betrayal and broken trust. I am the founder of the Courageous Together program, co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, and co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn. My work integrates trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and practical tools for creating lasting safety and connection. I’ve been married to my wife, Jody, since 1996 and we are the parents of four children.About Jody SteurerJody is the co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, where she brings her thoughtful, common-sense perspective to conversations about healing, trust, and connection. She earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA-certified coach. Jody has years of experience in corporate training, small business leadership, and family life, and raising four children (two of them neurodivergent). She loves watercolor painting, landscape design, spending time outdoors, and snow skiing.

Why You're Not Healing at the Same Speed

One of the most common fears couples face after betrayal is the feeling of being out of sync. One partner seems to be moving faster. The other feels stuck or confused. One wants to talk. The other wants space. And both start wondering, Why aren’t we healing the same? What does this say about our relationship?In this episode of From Crisis to Connection, Geoff and Jody unpack why couples never heal at the same pace and why that’s not necessarily a sign of failure. It’s a sign that each person is doing different work with different starting points, needs, wounds, and responsibilities.______________________________Download the Free Resource: You, Me, Us - A Way Forward After BetrayalWhen betrayal has shaken your relationship, it can feel impossible to know where to begin. This free 15-minute video and companion worksheet will help you steady yourself, support your partner, and begin caring for the relationship between you. Get your copy here.______________________________Join the Courageous Together™ ProgramCourageous Together™ isn’t just another course, it’s a trauma-informed roadmap that holds both of you in the healing process. If you’ve ever wondered “Where do we even start?” After betrayal, this program gives you the clarity and structure you need. It meets the betrayed partner’s need for safety while guiding the recovering partner toward real accountability, creating a path forward that neither of you has to figure out on your own.Healing from betrayal is overwhelming in isolation, which is why Courageous Together™ brings you expert guidance, practical tools, and a supportive community of couples walking the same road. Inside, you’ll find a step-by-step framework, live support opportunities, and the reassurance that you’re not alone as you rebuild safety, restore trust, and move toward genuine connection.You’ll have access to:A structured healing framework with step-by-step guidanceVideo lessons and worksheets to build safety, accountability, and connectionThe option to join live group circles and support calls with meA private, secure community of others walking the same pathLearn more and join us inside Courageous Together: www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together______________________________Stay ConnectedWebsiteYouTubeInstagramFacebookIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review! We’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey.______________________________Watch on YouTubePrefer video? You can watch full episodes of From Crisis to Connection on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/@FromCrisistoConnectionPocast.______________________________About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) with 25+ years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from the devastation of sexual betrayal and broken trust. I am the founder of the Courageous Together program, co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, and co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn. My work integrates trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and practical tools for creating lasting safety and connection. I’ve been married to my wife, Jody, since 1996 and we are the parents of four children.About Jody SteurerJody is the co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, where she brings her thoughtful, common-sense perspective to conversations about healing, trust, and connection. She earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA-certified coach. Jody has years of experience in corporate training, small business leadership, and family life, and raising four children (two of them neurodivergent). She loves watercolor painting, landscape design, spending time outdoors, and snow skiing.

Shouldn't Love Be Enough?

We grow up believing that if someone truly loves us, they’ll just know what we need. That love will automatically teach them how to comfort, protect, and show up in the right ways. But when betrayal or disconnection happens, that belief gets tested—and often shattered.In this episode of From Crisis to Connection, Geoff and Jody talk about why love alone isn’t enough to heal after betrayal. They explore how this belief shows up differently for the betrayed partner, the recovering partner, and the couple as a whole—and what it really takes to rebuild connection when love is present, but understanding is missing.Why betrayed partners often equate missed needs with being unlovableHow the belief “If you really loved me, you’d just know” traps both partners in painWhy recovering partners feel crushing pressure to get everything rightThe difference between love as a feeling and love as a daily practiceHow skill-building, vulnerability, and accountability transform love into safety______________________________Download the Free Resource: You, Me, Us - A Way Forward After BetrayalWhen betrayal has shaken your relationship, it can feel impossible to know where to begin. This free 15-minute video and companion worksheet will help you steady yourself, support your partner, and begin caring for the relationship between you. Get your copy here.______________________________Join the Courageous Together™ ProgramCourageous Together™ isn’t just another course, it’s a trauma-informed roadmap that holds both of you in the healing process. If you’ve ever wondered “Where do we even start?” After betrayal, this program gives you the clarity and structure you need. It meets the betrayed partner’s need for safety while guiding the recovering partner toward real accountability, creating a path forward that neither of you has to figure out on your own.You’ll have access to:A structured healing framework with step-by-step guidanceVideo lessons and worksheets to build safety, accountability, and connectionThe option to join live group circles and support calls with meA private, secure community of others walking the same pathLearn more and join us inside Courageous Together: www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together______________________________Stay ConnectedWebsiteYouTubeInstagramFacebookIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review! We’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey.______________________________Watch on YouTubePrefer video? You can watch full episodes of From Crisis to Connection on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/@FromCrisistoConnectionPocast.______________________________About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) with 25+ years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from the devastation of sexual betrayal and broken trust. I am the founder of the Courageous Together program, co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, and co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn. My work integrates trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and practical tools for creating lasting safety and connection. I’ve been married to my wife, Jody, since 1996 and we are the parents of four children.About Jody SteurerJody is the co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, where she brings her thoughtful, common-sense perspective to conversations about healing, trust, and connection. She earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA-certified coach. Jody has years of experience in corporate training, small business leadership, and family life, and raising four children (two of them neurodivergent). She loves watercolor painting, landscape design, spending time outdoors, and snow skiing.