Over The Bridge Podcast

Episode 110 - 'Adolescence' & The Need for Conversations with Boys & Men w/ Ben Hurst

In this episode of the Over the Bridge podcast, the hosts engage in a profound and expansive discussion with Ben Hurst, Director of Facilitation at Beyond Equality and TEDx speaker, on the complex themes surrounding masculinity and the societal constructs that shape male behaviour. The conversation explores the impact of toxic masculinity, the educational challenges in addressing these issues in schools, and the nuances of everyday sexism. The group also delves into parenthood, particularly the role of fathers in shaping healthy masculinity in their sons, and the importance of critical conversations about gender norms, emotional regulation, and accountability. Highlighting insights from the Netflix series 'Adolescence' and the necessity for systemic educational reform, the dialogue provides a comprehensive look at how different societal factors contribute to the development of young men and the collective responsibility to foster change.00:00 Welcome to Over the Bridge Podcast02:07 Special Guest: Ben Hurst04:29 The Impact of the Netflix Series 'Adolescents'06:17 Challenges and Opportunities in Addressing Masculinity09:37 The Role of Education in Addressing Masculinity19:44 The Debate on Showing 'Adolescents' in Schools29:36 Challenges in Addressing Gender Stereotypes30:32 Building Critical Thinking in Kids31:08 Complexity of Nuanced Shows for Young Audiences32:45 Tailoring Conversations for Different Groups37:14 The Role of Facilitators in Education46:08 Importance of Reflective Parenting51:48 Depiction of School Environments in Media01:03:20 Managing Conflict and Teaching Kids01:03:52 Lessons Learned from My Dad01:06:36 Respect and Role Modeling01:13:31 Everyday Sexism and Privilege01:23:35 Accountability and Forgiveness01:30:35 Closing Thoughts and Farewells

Episode 109 - OTB LIVE SHOW - Alternative Ways to Build Community

In this dynamic and interactive live podcast recording, the guys delve into alternative ways to build community in 2025. They invite two inspiring guests who share their unique experiences and perspectives on community building through sport and fitness. Tanita Blackstock, a seasoned supporter of underrepresented groups in the charity sector, talks about her involvement in the running community and empowering women. Aram Akom, founder of Black Tennis Mentors UK, elaborates on his efforts to grow the black tennis community, mentor young athletes, and create international outreach programs. The conversation covers the importance of safe spaces, the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on fitness culture, and the role of social media in fostering connections. This episode is an eye-opener on the power of community and the different forms it can take.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:29 Interactive Q&A Session01:28 Guest Introduction: Tanita Blackstock02:25 Guest Introduction: Aram Akom03:41 Discussion on Community Building04:08 Tanita's Perspective on Community06:53 Aram's Perspective on Community07:59 Health and Fitness in Community08:33 Running Communities and Inclusivity12:54 Creating Safe Spaces14:56 Impact of the Pandemic on Community Sports25:08 Challenges and Learnings in Community Building27:57 Brand Collaborations and Staying True to Purpose34:05 Long-term Goals and Aspirations36:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Episode 108 - OTB LIVE SHOW - What Is Trauma and Why Should You Care?

In the first part of our recorded live show, we have an engaging discussion on trauma and healing with guest speaker Whitney Iles, founder of Project 507. The conversation explores the definition of trauma, the importance of being trauma-informed, and the various ways to manage and heal from traumatic experiences. Whitney shares insights from her extensive experience in youth and community development, emphasizing the significance of relationships, community, and self-care in healing. .00:00 Introduction and Welcome02:52 Whitney's Journey and Early Career05:32 Understanding Trauma09:37 Healing and Therapy Approaches16:34 Community and Generational Trauma19:40 Cultural Perspectives on Emotional Expression20:30 Therapy and Community Healing21:33 The Power of Dance and Movement22:16 Trauma-Informed Approaches23:48 Building Community Through Shared Experiences25:22 Supporting Loved Ones Through Trauma26:12 The Role of Practitioners in Trauma Work30:15 Explaining Trauma to Young People36:16 Self-Care for Practitioners39:43 Final Thoughts and Resources

Episode 107 - Tales from the Public Sector: Teaching and Medicine

In this episode of the Over the Bridge Podcast, Kalil and Baker share a special two-person discussion focusing on their careers in the public sector. Kalil elaborates on his current role as a safeguarding and attendance specialist leader of education, detailing his journey from studying law at Cambridge to finding fulfillment in teaching. Meanwhile, Baker, a foundation year doctor, shares his path to medicine, discussing the early influences, challenges, and his desire to contribute to communities in need. Both delve into the intricacies, motivations, and the impactful nature of their jobs, providing a candid look at the realities of working in the public sector. They also highlight key traits that make individuals successful in these fields.00:00 Welcome to Over the Bridge Podcast01:36 Journey into Teaching03:59 From Law to Teaching09:10 The Reality of Teaching11:09 Becoming a Doctor13:13 Balancing Personal and Professional Life17:11 Navigating Social Media as Professionals23:04 Influence of Cultural Expectations25:13 Reflecting on School Experiences27:16 Choosing Medicine29:29 The Reality of Medical School30:49 Public Sector Challenges35:45 Balancing Work and Life in Teaching42:52 Advice for Aspiring Teachers46:28 Qualities of a Good Teacher48:26 Qualities of a Good Doctor52:24 Closing Thoughts and Contact Information

Episode 106 - Exploring Professionalism: Hair, Dress, and Code-Switching

In this episode of Over the Bridge Podcast, Kalil, Bilal, and Baker dive into a discussion inspired by recent personal conversations about the concept of professionalism. They explore the influence of hair, dress code, and the way they speak, especially as black and mixed-race men. The conversation covers personal anecdotes, cultural influences, and how professional norms can differ across various environments like hospitals, schools, and freelance settings. The episode also delves into the subconscious nature of code-switching and its impact on personal identity and professional interactions.00:00 Introduction and Host Introductions01:52 Hospital Dress Codes and Professionalism06:17 Teaching Profession Dress Codes09:42 Freelancing and Dress Codes15:42 Hair and Professionalism35:23 Colonialism and Hair Perceptions36:30 Media Representation and Hair Standards37:22 Generational Shifts in Hair Perception38:13 Professionalism and Natural Hair40:42 Code-Switching in Professional Settings42:05 Accent and Intonation in the Workplace43:21 Language Adaptation and Code-Switching46:29 Cultural Influences on Language56:08 Authenticity in Professional Communication59:02 Future Hair Styles and Personal Identity01:03:24 Live Event Announcement and Conclusion