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You’re Setting Goals That Quietly Work Against You

Dr. K breaks down the science of why 80% of New Year's resolutions fail and how to use behavioral research to make changes stick. He explains why common strategies like accountability partners can backfire and how to move from simply wanting a change to being ready to achieve it.• The Accountability Trap: Outsourcing responsibility to a partner often leads to shared failure rather than sustained personal growth.• The 14-Failure Rule: Data shows that people who successfully change for two years fail an average of 14 times along the way.• Preparation Over Desire: Simply wanting a change has no bearing on success; you must be prepared and ready for the cost of change.• Build Self-Efficacy: Setting specific, attainable "SMART" goals proves to your mind that you are actually capable of succeeding.• Choose Approach Goals: Moving toward a positive reward is more sustainable than just trying to move away from a negative state.HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your Problems Aren't A Personality

Dr. K explores how turning suffering into an identity prevents growth and why relying on willpower often leads to burnout. He shares practical tools to find internal motivation and master difficult social interactions.• The Identity Trap: Building your personality around your problems makes recovery feel like a betrayal of yourself.• The Willpower Paradox: Forcing yourself to do things is an independent risk factor for future stagnation and action crises.• Social S-Tier Moves: Use specific communication hacks to handle criticism and accept compliments without feeling defensive.• The Science of Cheating: Many students use AI because modern systems reward grades and efficiency over actual deep learning.• Action vs. State: Successful people focus on doing the work rather than chasing a specific emotional state or feelingHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Procrastination Holds You Back

Dr. K moves past complicated neuroscientific explanations to explain that procrastination is actually a manipulation by a primitive mind. He describes the mind as a "feral animal" that exists outside of your true self, constantly generating "false procrastination" to keep you from doing the work that matters.What to expect in this episode:• Your Mind is Not You: Learning to see the mind as activity rather than an object, allowing you to create the distance necessary to stop listening to its excuses.• The Boredom Scam: How the mind uses feelings of boredom and the thought that an action is "not enough" to trick you into returning to effortless activities like scrolling.• Training through Futility: Why doing "foolish" or "futile" actions—like meditation or raw-dogging existence—is the only way to prove to your mind that you are actually in chargeHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How High Performers Get Ahead

Dr. K examines the psychological profiles of billionaires, CEOs, and elite creators to reveal that their success often stems from being "broken in the right way". He challenges the idea that high performance is just about financial advantage, focusing instead on the internal insecurities and psychological pressures that drive exceptional people to outwork everyone else.What to expect in this episode:• The Performance Trap: How growing up with conditional love creates a lifelong insecurity that can only be quieted by achieving at a very high level.• Healthy Entitlement: Why elite achievers have the agency to leave toxic situations and the confidence to ask for help rather than complaining about the world's unfairness.• The Contentment Debuff: Why the biggest difference between high and low performers is the refusal to feel satisfied after finishing a simple taskHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Problem After Puer Aeternus

In this episode Dr. K sits down with content creator BSJ to discuss the hidden psychological weight that remains after tackling Puer Aeternus (the eternal youth). They explore how moving past the "commitment-phobe" phase is only the beginning of the journey, leading into a deeper dive into perfectionism, conditional love, and the "monster in the basement" that drives high-achievers to punish themselves even after they succeed. Key Topics:• Beyond Puer Aeternus: Why simply "taking the plunge" into a career or relationship is not the end goal, but rather the start of deeper psychological healing. • The Origins of Perfectionism: A powerful look at how childhood experiences—like being reminded of the two missed free throws instead of the eight successful ones—lead to an adulthood defined by constant self-critique. • The Weight of Being "Hard on Yourself": Understanding why high-achievers use self-induced pain as a motivational system and the immense mental exhaustion it causes over time. • The Role of Blame in Healing: Why Dr. K suggests that you must accurately place blame for childhood damage before you can truly forgive and move past it. • The Loneliness of "Leveling Up": Exploring the isolation that often accompanies emotional growth, as shifting your life path can create a wedge between you and your old peer groups. HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices