The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

445. You Don’t Have Multiple Priorities In Marriage, You Have One... And It Should Be Each Other

What if the key to transforming your marriage isn’t more time, but clearer priorities?In this episode, Nick and Amy are joined by therapist Austin to discuss one foundational truth: your marriage should be your priority. Not work. Not kids. Not phones. The marriage.Austin explains that many couples enter therapy focused on surface problems or looking for a “bad guy.” But when couples strengthen their emotional, physical, and spiritual bond, many issues naturally improve. When the relationship is healthy, everything else such as parenting, careers, stress functions better.It’s Not About Time, It’s About IntentionPrioritizing your spouse doesn’t require hours each day. It’s often small, consistent actions:A thoughtful textPlanning intimacy before a busy dayProtecting date nightChoosing your spouse over your phoneThese simple efforts say, You matter to me.When a spouse feels prioritized, connection can rebuild quickly.The Distraction ProblemMost couples live in “urgent but not important” mode — constantly reacting to notifications, emails, and distractions while neglecting what matters most.If your marriage is truly the priority, it should go on the calendar first — not last.A weekly “couples council” can help you stay aligned: express appreciation, review schedules, and intentionally plan time together before filling your week with everything else.A Covenant MindsetMarriage isn’t just a commitment — it’s a covenant. When you drift, repair isn’t about blame. It’s about course-correcting and saying, You matter most. I’m all in.A strong, intimate, playful marriage isn’t complicated. It’s intentional.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

444. Are You Just "Too Tired" For Your Marriage?

Is it just us… or is everyone exhausted?In this honest and relatable episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy tackle a question so many couples are asking: Are we too tired for our marriage?Between careers, kids, packed schedules, hormones, and everyday stress, exhaustion feels constant, and intimacy is often the first thing to fade. But here’s the real challenge:Are you truly too tired… or have you stopped prioritizing your marriage?With humor and real-life perspective from 23 years of marriage, Nick and Amy unpack what’s behind the “I’m too tired” excuse, and how to shift back into connection.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why exhaustion is often more mental than physicalThe difference between being tired and simply boredWhy you find energy for what you’re committed toHow overscheduling drains your relationshipThe power of small, intentional momentsWhy putting your phone down changes everythingHow dividing responsibilities reduces burnoutWhy laughter, play, and celebration actually create energyA Powerful ReminderMarriage isn’t about feeling perfect every day — it’s about choosing to show up, even when you’re tired.Intimacy doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. Sometimes it’s five focused minutes, holding hands, a compliment, or protecting a weekly date night. If you have energy to scroll, you have energy to connect.If you’re exhausted, you’re probably doing a lot of good things. But this episode will challenge you to look at your priorities, set better boundaries, and intentionally protect your marriage.Because when you get out of boredom and back into connection, energy follows.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

443. Too Late to Set Boundaries in Your Marriage? Why Boundaries Show Love With Expert Austin

It’s easy to think love in marriage is only shown through romance, gifts, or intimacy. But one of the most powerful ways to show love to your spouse is through healthy boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about control, distance, or keeping your spouse out, they’re about respect, emotional safety, and creating a marriage where both of you feel valued, understood, and protected.In this week’s episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we sit down with therapist and expert Austin to talk about boundaries in marriage. Many couples wonder: Is it too late to set boundaries after years of marriage? What happens if we never established them early on? The answer is no, it’s never too late. Boundaries can be set at any stage of your marriage, and when implemented with intention, they actually strengthen connection, trust, and intimacy.Boundaries teach your spouse how to love you in the way you need. They show care by clarifying expectations, protecting your emotional space, and fostering mutual respect. Without boundaries, couples can unintentionally hurt each other, feel resentment, or struggle with emotional closeness. Whether you’ve experienced betrayal, miscommunication, or just want to prevent hurt from ever happening, boundaries are a key tool for maintaining a healthy, loyal, and passionate marriage.In this episode, we talk about:Why boundaries are an essential act of love in marriageHow to set boundaries together as a couple, even if you’re years into marriageThe boundaries we personally feel are most important and whyHow boundaries protect your emotional connection and help you prioritize your spouseHow implementing boundaries prevents small conflicts from becoming big issuesWe also discuss real-life examples and practical tips for couples to start setting boundaries today, plus guidance on how to communicate your needs respectfully and effectively. Boundaries aren’t about rules or rigidity—they’re about creating a safe, loving environment where both spouses can thrive emotionally, mentally, and physically.If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Is it too late to set boundaries in my marriage?” or “Will my spouse understand what I need?”, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how boundaries can actually bring you closer, deepen trust, and enhance intimacy. Austin shares expert insights, and we share personal stories and lessons that make these principles relatable and actionable for every couple.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

442. Nobody Ever Teaches You How To Be Married - So Give Your Spouse & Marriage Some Grace

Nobody ever really teaches us how to be married. Most of us walk into marriage full of love and hope, but with very little understanding of what we’re actually stepping into. We come from different families, different upbringings, and different beliefs about money, sex, parenting, communication, and conflict. Then suddenly, we’re expected to blend all of that into one shared life.Marriage often feels like being thrown into the deep end and told to figure it out as you go. And for many couples, the struggle isn’t a lack of effort—it’s a lack of tools. We don’t know how to build the marriage we want, and sometimes we don’t even know what tools we’re missing.In this episode of Ultimate Intimacy, Nick and Amy talk about how many of us have unintentionally built patterns, habits, and even entire marriages we never meant to create. Not because we didn’t care, but because we were never taught how to do it differently. They explore why understanding this truth can change everything, and why learning to extend grace to ourselves and to our spouse may be one of the most powerful steps toward deeper connection and intimacy. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

441. The Unexpected Side Of Marriage - The Things We Didn't Realize When We Got Married

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we take a fun and honest look at the unexpected side of marriage and the things no one really prepares you for. From those moments when Nick asks, “What’s wrong, sweetie?” and Amy answers, “Nothing”… which somehow means something 😉 to Amy realizing just how much patience marriage would require, especially with Nick during those first 15 years.We also take turns telling why and how we each came up with three things that were total shockers to us about marriage!From finally realizing why marriage needs to come before the kids, to Nick admitting that he misses how affectionate and "all over him" Amy was before kids—anyone else relate to that one?This episode is lighthearted, real, and full of moments every spouse can relate to. Whether you have been married for many years or are just starting out, you will find yourself laughing, nodding, and probably saying, “Yep, that is us!”What surprised you about marriage?What lessons have you learned that you never knew you would need?Email us and let us know! We would love to hear your stories so we can do a Part 2 episode.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!