Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

104. How to Get Clear on What You Want | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 3)

What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you don’t know what to do… but because you’re afraid of choosing the wrong thing? In this coaching call with Cordelia, we talk about what it really looks like to get clear on what you want when fear, uncertainty, and old patterns keep pulling you in different directions. We unpack job search anxiety, shiny object syndrome, and the very real fear of ending up back in environments where you don’t feel heard. This episode is about slowing down, listening to your body, and learning how clarity actually creates safety, confidence, and forward momentum.You might want to listen if:You feel paralyzed by too many options and second guess every decision you makeYou’re afraid of starting over because you don’t want to repeat past patternsYou keep chasing new ideas or opportunities but never feel fully settledYour nervous system gets activated around work, money, or being “put in a corner”You want to feel more confident standing up for what you want without over explaining or backing downFIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

103. Should I Tell My Avoidant Partner About Attachment Theory?

Should you tell your avoidant partner about attachment theory, or is that actually making things harder?In this episode of Speak Honest, I unpack the very real urge to explain, teach, and hope that if your partner just understood attachment theory, everything would finally feel safer. We talk about why that urge so often comes from an activated nervous system, how timing and safety matter more than insight, and what actually creates change in anxious–avoidant dynamics. This episode isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding what’s happening inside you and learning how to get your power back in the process.You might want to listen if:You feel the constant urge to explain yourself or overteach when your partner pulls awayYou’ve learned about attachment theory and want your partner to “get it” tooYou notice yourself feeling more anxious, not less, after trying to help him understandYou’re stuck in a push–pull dynamic and don’t know how to change it without chasingYou want to feel calmer, clearer, and more grounded no matter how your partner shows upFIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

102. Is This My Intuition or My Attachment Style Acting Up?

Is this your intuition… or is your anxious attachment getting activated?In this episode of Speak Honest, I answer a listener question that so many self-aware women struggle with. You’ve done the work. You usually feel secure. And yet, in a new connection, something feels unsettled. Not dramatic. Not chaotic. Just off. Together, we break down the difference between intuition and anxious attachment, what secure attachment actually feels like in real life, and how to stay curious instead of turning on yourself when those feelings show up.You might want to listen if: You thought you were secure but dating someone brought up anxious attachment You struggle to tell the difference between intuition and attachment activation You feel pressure to decide quickly whether to stay or leave a relationship You tend to judge or shame yourself when anxious attachment shows up You want to make more grounded, secure decisions in dating and relationshipsFIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

101. When Being Easygoing Gets You Taken Advantage Of | My Coaching Call with Cordelia

Do you ever feel like being easygoing somehow turns into being overlooked, dismissed, or taken advantage of?In this episode, I sit down with Cordelia for our second coaching session and we unpack a pattern so many people live inside of without realizing it. When you’re flexible, capable, and willing to help, those traits can quietly become the reason you end up carrying more than your share, questioning yourself, and feeling trapped or burned out. Together, we explore how these dynamics form, how your nervous system responds when boundaries aren’t honored, and what it actually looks like to start responding differently in real time. This is an honest, grounded conversation about confidence, boundaries, and learning to trust yourself again without becoming rigid or shut down.You might want to listen if: • You’re often described as easygoing but feel like it costs you • You struggle to say no and then feel resentful or overwhelmed afterward • You notice anxiety, shutdown, or burnout building over time • You second-guess yourself and wonder if you’re the problem • You want to set boundaries without feeling guilty, harsh, or unsafeCheck out Cordelia’s First Coaching SessionFIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

100. How Speak Honest Became 100 Honest Conversations

Ever wonder how something meaningful actually gets built when you don’t rush it?In this special New Year’s Eve episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the backstory of the Speak Honest Podcast and how it grew into 100 honest conversations about attachment, relationships, nervous system healing, and real change. From an accidental name in a college group project to a steady space for women who are tired of pretending they’re fine, this episode is about consistency, honesty, and staying when nothing seems to be happening yet. We’re celebrating the milestone, reflecting on the journey, and looking ahead to what’s coming next as we step into a new year together.You might want to listen if:You feel behind in your life, healing, or relationships and wonder if the slow path still countsYou’re exhausted from repeating the same patterns and want things to finally feel differentYou’re curious how Speak Honest actually began and why it means so muchYou’re heading into the new year craving reflection, not pressureYou want a reminder that honest, consistent effort really does add upFIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.