Happy Slut

Teaching Men to Flirt with Marni Kinrys of the Wing Girl Method

Marni Kinrys is the dating coach of every nervous, awkward man's dreams, pinecones. She developed her Wing Girl Method over years of watching good men fumble every time they try to connect with women - and her practical techniques for sparking attraction will make you more confident connecting with others, no matter who you are.In this episode:Why the "nice guy" is just the other side of the asshole coinThe tiny reframe that changes everything: from "what can I get from her?" to "what do I actually want to know about her?"Why so many men literally can't flirt—and why it's a mindset before it's a skillMarni's wildest exercise: sending guys to ask 10 women if they think he's sexy (and what the women actually say)Her flirting frameworks, decoded: OSA (Observe, Share, Ask) and LCA (Learn, Confirm, Affirm)The truth about the Manosphere: the real nuggets buried in all the poisonWhy you don't need six-pack abs or six figures—and what actually makes a face "morph" into hotGiving good men permission to go after what they actually wantHow patriarchy quietly wrecks men, tooFOLLOW MARNI:Grab her free flirting cheat sheet: https://winggirlmethod.com/flirtcsWebsite: https://winggirlmethod.comPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-the-girl-an-ask-women-podcast/id651219242YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/marnikinrysInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/winggirlmethod/SUPPORT THE SHOW!Subscribe to My Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcastShare this episode with a good man who can't figure out why he's still single, or with any woman who's exhausted from trying to explain men to themselves.xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

Become Your Own Best Lover with Annette Benedetti

My new crush Annette Benedetti — intimacy coach and host of Talk Sex with Annette — is one of the most joyful, flirty humans I've ever talked sex with. And she got here the hard way: surviving assault at 13, a town that acted like it was her fault, and decades of healing before finding her voice again. This is the story movies never tell — the part after, where you survive, you still want sex, and you go on to build the wildly happy erotic life the world tried to take away from you. This is the story I want for all survivors.In this one we get into:The misogynistic atmosphere that groomed Annette as a young girl, and the story her town told instead of the truthWhat patriarchy does to survivors (and why the conventional-wife "happy ending" is a myth)Reclaiming her voice and how President Trump unwittingly inspired her podcastBecoming her own best lover: her free 365 Days of Orgasms journeyA love letter to the G-spot and A-spot - yum!Testosterone, perimenopause, and libido after 40Layered sensation, patterns, and a very practical toy tutorialWhether you're a survivor, a late bloomer, or just body-curious, come get lit up with us, pinecones.The toys Annette gushed about: Womanizer Blend & Enhance — womanizer.com, code ANNETTE15 for 15% off.Find Annette: talksexwithannette.com · Instagram · TikTok & Facebook @talksexwithannette · the Talk Sex with Annette podcastHear me on her show: A Bi Girl's Guide to Better Sex — a goldmine if you love pleasing women and vulva owners.Come find me & the show: @samia.mounts · show @happyslutcast (IG + TikTok) · happyslutcast@gmail.com. I read every DM and email — send me your thoughts and advice questions!Support Happy Slut 💕 Become a paying subscriber at samiamounts.substack.com — my latest essay is all about why I love sharing my lovers with my friends (half's behind the paywall 😏). Prefer to tip? Venmo @Samia-Mounts or CashApp $SamiaMounts. Can't pay? Sharing this episode with a friend who needs it is even better.Take one sec to leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review — it's how new happy sluts find us.Next week: Marni Kinrys, your personal Wing Girl, on why men can't flirt — and why fixing it is basically a mental-health intervention.Do something pleasurable this weekend, sweethearts.xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closetedGet a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

Socially Monogamous, Sexually Free with John & Jackie Melfi of OpenLove101

Pinecones, this week is a little different: a joint episode! I traveled to Houston to sit down with John and Jackie Melfi—leaders in the American swinger community, owners of the legendary Colette lifestyle clubs (Houston, Dallas, Austin, San Antonio, and New Orleans), and the couple behind OpenLove101.com, where I used to blog back in the day. Between them they've got three-plus decades of experience with non-monogamous marriage, swinging, and sexual freedom, and their studio team handled the filming, so you KNOW it looks good.Full disclosure: John and Jackie and I don't agree on everything—the swinger world is a lot more politically diverse than the poly/ENM crowd—and that's kind of the point. This is what it looks like to connect across differences on the things that matter: autonomy, freedom, pleasure, joy, and integrity while pursuing all of the above.In this episode:Social monogamy vs. sexual monogamy—and why those "monogamous" birds are hiding a scandal in the nestIf we were naturally monogamous, we wouldn't need so many rulesHow John went from Star Trek nerd to lifestyle club owner (via one very inspiring night in Amsterdam)The high school double-date that turned into a marriage… three decades laterJackie's journey from strict monogamy to sexual empowerment—and the daily journaling that became OpenLove101Comets: the long-distance lovers (and friends!) you keep for years—and John's realization that he's been collecting them all alongWhy we need to stop fetishizing romantic relationships and start honoring romantic friendshipsMy marriage, my divorce-in-progress, and what happens when someone loves the idea of you more than the actual youThe childhood shame stories John and I both carry from first grade—and how shame rewrites our memoriesThe myth that you can't be sexually prolific AND wholesomeHow men can become givers in bed (step one: actually see women as people)The bartender who taught teenage John everything, bless herWhy "be a safe man" is the best sex advice there isThe spit-in-the-mouth trend, litigated at lastThe micro-flinch story: what real attunement looks like in bedAt the end of the episode, I share something personal: I lost a good friend to suicide this week. If you've been putting off a catch-up call with someone you love, make the call. And if you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988—or email me. We take care of each other around here.FOLLOW JOHN & JACKIE:Website & blog: OpenLove101.comInstagram: @openlove101YouTube: Openlove101The Openlove101 Show: Listen on SpotifySUPPORT THE SHOW!Subscribe to My Substack: samiamounts.substack.comVenmo Samia: @Samia-MountsCashApp Samia: $SamiaMountsInstagram: @samia.mounts & @happyslutcastTikTok: @happyslutcastYouTube: @happyslutcastShare this episode with someone who thinks swingers and poly folks are the same people. They're in for an education.xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closetedGet a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

The Introvert Who Threw the World's Wildest Sex Parties with Polly Superstar

Pinecones, I am GLOWING. This week I sat down with a legend: Polly Superstar—founder of San Francisco's iconic Mission Control and the global Kinky Salon movement, latex fashion designer, author of the memoir Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary, and now the magical mermaid behind the Writing with Mermaids somatic writing retreats. For 25 years, Polly threw the most whimsical, artistic, immersive sex parties on the planet... while secretly being a sensitive introvert whose bed was literally in the coat check. We talk about what it costs to build everybody else's liberation, why letting go of Kinky Salon was their real life's work, and how the story you're dying to write is hiding in your body.In this episode:How a latex fashion designer from London became the godmother of San Francisco sex party cultureWhat actually happens at a Kinky Salon (lovingly known as "the sex party you go to and don't get laid")The haunted-house Zoom kink parties that kept everyone sane during the pandemic—featuring a demon topping you from HellWhy Polly says "everybody else's liberation was my prison"Living at Mission Control for nine years with a bed in the coat checkBurnout, boners, and being SO over bothWhat it's like to be raised with ZERO sexual shame—and then discovering patriarchy is alive and wellWhy Polly explored celibacy after decades of sluttiness (and why their community got weird about it)Setting out to find a lover in every port... and the same man showing up in every single one (reader, they married him)Being a California love bomber in CopenhagenGender, labels, and why Annie Sprinkle's "metamorphosexual" might be the best one ever coinedWhimsymaxxing as a 25-year legacy (thank you for the word, Liz Plank!)Why the story resides in the body, not the mind—and how water unlocks itHot springs, silence, and word flow at the Writing with Mermaids retreatsFOLLOW POLLY SUPERSTAR:Website & Writing Retreats: https://www.withmermaids.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pollywordflowBuy Polly's memoir, Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary, directly from Polly—they'll sign it and ship it to you themself (do NOT buy it from Amazon): https://www.pollysuperstar.comGet Polly's FREE 3-day writing course: https://pollysuperstar.impact.me/wordflowjumpstartSUPPORT THE SHOW!Subscribe to My Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & http://www.instagram.com/happyslutcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcastShare this episode with the introvert in your life who's so busy building everyone else's freedom that they forgot their own.xoxo, SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

From Cult Kid to Pro Dom with Lyra

I met Lyra at Dixie De La Tour's birthday orgy in San Francisco. (Yes, that's a sentence I get to say now.) We made out, she flew across the country a few weeks later to spend 28 magical hours with me and my partner Daniel, and my crush on her is TRULY ridiculous.Lyra is a professional dominatrix and sex educator based in the San Francisco Bay Area who specializes in pegging, anal play, and helping people feel more at home in their own bodies and desires. But that's only part of her story. She also grew up in a high-control religious cult, survived an unimaginably painful rock bottom, and rebuilt her life with the help of community, pleasure, and an unwavering refusal to let anybody shame her sexuality.She's funny, brilliant, deeply compassionate, and one of the most emotionally intelligent people I've met in a long time. I adore this woman.In this episode, we discuss:How Lyra went from cult kid to professional dominatrixWhy pressure doesn't work for sex (or relationships)Growing up in a high-control religious community that was oddly sex-positive... and deeply unhealthyDiscovering polyamory and Bay Area sex partiesWhy powerful men often crave surrenderWhat it's actually like to specialize in peggingThe difference between empowering sex work and exploitationSupporting men's emotional healing through intimacy and touchWhy Lyra believes we're all capable of reclaiming our "slutitude"SUPPORT LYRA:Website: https://queenlyra.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/queenlyra11SUPPORT THE SHOW!Subscribe to My Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcastShare this episode with a friend, a lover, or somebody who's still trying to untangle sexuality from shame.xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closetedGet a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.