215. 5 Toxic Patterns + The Family Role You Didn’t Choose But Still Carry

Have you ever noticed how quickly old patterns resurface when you're around family?

Maybe you find yourself walking on eggshells. Struggling to voice your preferences. Feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions. Or slipping back into roles you thought you'd left behind years ago.

In this episode, Dr. Alison revisits one of the most requested conversations from the podcast, exploring how the dynamics we experienced growing up continue to shape our relationships today.

Through the lens of attachment theory, boundaries, and family systems, Alison unpacks five common patterns that can influence the way we show up with the people we love—and how awareness is the first step toward healing.

You'll learn:

*Why family relationships can pull us back into old roles

*What enmeshment is—and how it differs from healthy closeness

*Five family patterns that often follow us into adulthood

*How childhood experiences shape the way we handle conflict, boundaries, and relationships

*Practical steps to help you begin breaking free from unhealthy dynamics

Healing begins by telling the truth with wisdom, compassion, and truth—so you can love others without losing yourself.

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Curious what Family Role may have shaped you? Take the Family Role Quiz to learn how you may be showing up in your relationships with others.

Want to hear more like this? Start here:

Episode 194: When Relationships Start to Drain You—Using Discernment to Stay Connected Without Losing Yourself

Episode 178 How to Recognize Toxic Tactics, and Stop Taking the Bait

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