In this episode, host Diane Gilman engages in a thought-provoking and vulnerable conversation with the remarkable Martha Bodyfelt, a dating and life coach who specializes in helping mature women navigate the challenges of dating through the innovative Mind Surgery Method.
Unveiling Limiting Beliefs
As Diane and Martha dive into the discussion, listeners are introduced to Martha's unique approach to dating for mature women. Diane candidly shares her own experiences as a self-proclaimed "worst dater,"...
In this episode, host Diane Gilman engages in a thought-provoking and vulnerable conversation with the remarkable Martha Bodyfelt, a dating and life coach who specializes in helping mature women navigate the challenges of dating through the innovative Mind Surgery Method.
Unveiling Limiting Beliefs
As Diane and Martha dive into the discussion, listeners are introduced to Martha's unique approach to dating for mature women. Diane candidly shares her own experiences as a self-proclaimed "worst dater," frequently drawn to the allure of bad boys. Martha explains the transformative program, the Mind Surgery Method. This method, developed by Cara Rice, is rooted in addressing subconscious beliefs and utilizing neuro-linguistic programming to rewire thought patterns.
Overcoming Challenges
Martha sees a lot of women who struggle with patterns of attracting emotionally unavailable partners and self-sabotage. She pinpoints a significant hurdle faced by her clients: hidden limiting beliefs. These internal scripts, sometimes passed down through generations or developed from personal experiences, manifest as detrimental thoughts such as "I am unworthy of love," "I am too old to date," or "relationships are unsafe."
The Mind Surgery Method
Martha elaborates on the Mind Surgery Method, which involves safely delving into the subconscious to dismantle these limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering, positive ones. Martha says that through her work she has seen three common mistakes in her client’s attitudes to dating:
Following the Crowd: Many mature women feel compelled to date simply because it's perceived as the norm.
Stagnant Dating Styles: Some women maintain a dating approach reminiscent of their younger years, failing to evolve with their personal growth.
Over-Reliance on Online Dating: Martha emphasizes the importance of diversifying one's dating strategies, much like maintaining a diverse investment portfolio rather than putting all your resources into a single avenue.
Defining What You Want
Diane confides her uncertainty about her dating desires, expressing a preference for companionship without the vulnerability of a deep relationship. Martha highlights the significance of clarity in dating intentions, a theme she frequently encounters among mature female clients. She warns against dating out of scarcity or societal pressure.
Navigating Obstacles
Martha delves into the major obstacles hindering women from finding fulfilling relationships, emphasizing the importance of clarity in one's dating objectives. Diane candidly addresses her apprehension, feeling too mature to endure heartbreak once again. Martha urges Diane to embrace her desires without reservation and build confidence in her decisions.
The Power of Attitude
Martha underscores the significance of attitude and mindset for success in dating beyond age 55. She dismantles the notion that location or age are the determining factors, emphasizing that attitude transformation often leads to either attracting quality partners or discovering contentment in other aspects of life. Martha reveals that mature daters often replace the importance of youthful sexuality with knowledge and self-awareness, resulting in newfound confidence.
Diane says that she recognizes that her own attitude had been the root of her dating challenges. For those seeking further guidance, Martha's contact information is provided, including her website marthabodyfelt.com and her free guide titled "Where to Start If You Haven't Dated in Years or Decades."
Martha’s details:
Website: marthabodyfelt.com (where you can download Martha’s free guide: "Where to start if you haven't dated in years (or decades)").
Instagram: @coach_marthabodyfelt
Join the Empowered Dating for Women FB Group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/700449001229210
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