How to Love Someone Without Trying to Control Them

Today's Scripture: Luke 13:34–35

**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**
What do you do when someone you love will not come close, receive help, or change the pattern that is hurting them? Today’s Scripture gives us a tender and honest picture of Jesus longing to gather Jerusalem like a hen gathers her chicks —and grieving that they were not willing.

This episode helps you love deeply without overfunctioning, chasing, fixing, or taking responsibility for someone else’s response. You’ll learn:

*Why love can be fully offered and still refused
*How overfunctioning often grows out of anxiety and attachment distress
*Why Jesus grieves without controlling
*The difference between loving someone and becoming responsible for their agency
*How to love with both tenderness and limits

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