Andrew and Adele both know why they need alcohol to socialize — or think they do. For Adele, 64 and living in a New Zealand wine region, it started at 14 in the back of a school bus and never really stopped being about fitting in. For Andrew, who is navigating a late-life ADHD diagnosis and the possible end of his marriage, the answer turned out to go a lot deeper than the social stuff.
Andrew discusses:
His late-life ADHD diagnosis and why emotional dysregulation makes the pull toward alcohol so much harder to c...
Andrew and Adele both know why they need alcohol to socialize — or think they do. For Adele, 64 and living in a New Zealand wine region, it started at 14 in the back of a school bus and never really stopped being about fitting in. For Andrew, who is navigating a late-life ADHD diagnosis and the possible end of his marriage, the answer turned out to go a lot deeper than the social stuff.
Andrew discusses:
His late-life ADHD diagnosis and why emotional dysregulation makes the pull toward alcohol so much harder to catch.
Realizing he has never felt safe — and how his body already knew that before he did
What finally made his marriage struggles make complete sense
The hand-on-heart technique from Coach Zoe and how it's helping him regulate in real time
Finding The Path after his wife asked for a divorce — and what group coaching calls unlocked
Adele discusses:
Fifty years of drinking to fit in, starting at 14 in the back of a school bus
Why AA's shame-based language kept her stuck, and what changed when she joined The Path
The five-year-old who felt different, rejected, and vulnerable after her parents' divorce
Struggling to show compassion for her younger self because of choices she hasn't forgiven
The visualization practice that gave her a glimpse of something she hadn't felt in a long time: peace
And more…
Coach Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol so you can feel better physically, mentally, and spiritually. Zoe taught Pilates for 15 years. She has four adult children and more animals than the Ark ever had. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/
Coach Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/
Episode links: nakedmindpath.com
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