MIND: #1 Relationship Tip

DAILY INSIGHT To change what’s happening in your life, you must first change what’s happening in your mind. Instead of focusing on external occurrences that you can’t control — which makes you feel powerless — focus inward, on your thoughts and emotions. Where do your thoughts come from? What emotions come up again and again for you? Which thoughts and emotions are holding you back from living the life you want to live? DAILY ACTION Take the time to identify one thought pattern that holds you back. For example, you might get angry every time you feel someone is criticizing you, and therefore miss out on the opportunity for growth and connection. You might feel jealous when you see your partner talking to an attractive person, and in turn, make your partner feel as though you don’t trust them. Whatever your pattern is, notice it. And then choose a thought pattern to replace it. Choose to reframe criticism as useful feedback, take a deep breath, and get quiet to listen closely. Choose to appreciate your partner’s loyalty as well as the fact that they choose YOU every day. Don’t suppress your challenging thoughts — they’re important. Instead, use them to learn more about yourself; and become the person you want to be.