How do I get more pleasure in my life and relationships?
Getting past the word pleasure - Culture and church cringy word, kind of awkward, vaguely sexual
Pleasure definition = enjoyment, satisfaction
1 - Look for pleasure to be relationship focused
2 - ask deeper questions about pleasure
3 - pleasure in balance with other emotions
4 - noticing skills
3 stages of pleasure:
Wanting – expectation/anticipation, pursuit/drive
Liking – sensation experience of pleasure, hedonistic hotspots in the brain
Learning – brain updating information, making future predictions; brain begins linking neurotransmitters that were harder to link before
Resources:
Altogether Beautiful video on expanding our understanding of pleasure
45 sec Preview: https://youtu.be/902FvFLwbA0?si=P8irRsjz0AH2ZQXj
https://vimeo.com/ondemand/altogetherbeautiful/260826340
https://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2004/11/berridge
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-cultures/202107/the-new-neuroscience-pleasure
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