Ep 257 - Find out how GOOD Mom Life Can Be (rejecting the default)

2023-10-08

Here's what I mean by "Reject the Default Mom Life Narrative" First - what IS the default Mom Life narrative? It's the belief that moms life is: *Facebook groups packed with “no, MY husband is the worst!” posts *Memes joking how our kids suck the life out of us… *…but don’t you dare talk badly about your kids or complain - be grateful for gosh sake! *Feeling like a major inconvenience if we dare put ourselves first, feeling guilt the whole time *Revenge scrolling because there’s no time in our lives for us *...

Here's what I mean by "Reject the Default Mom Life Narrative"

First - what IS the default Mom Life narrative?

It's the belief that moms life is:

*Facebook groups packed with “no, MY husband is the worst!” posts

*Memes joking how our kids suck the life out of us…

*…but don’t you dare talk badly about your kids or complain - be grateful for gosh sake!

*Feeling like a major inconvenience if we dare put ourselves first, feeling guilt the whole time

*Revenge scrolling because there’s no time in our lives for us

*Nagging because no one listens the first time as resentment builds

*If you don’t put your kids first, you’re selfish

*Sacrifice is the name of the game - if you don’t give it all to motherhood, you’re an asshole

...and more.

We're SOAKED in this messaging - and eventually, if you soak in it long enough... you start to believe it.

That's how it works.

The default belief is moms are expected to be (and accept being):

-Overworked

-Overwhelmed

-Overstimulated

-Endlessly self-sacrificing

-Resentful

-Exhausted

-Burnt out

So - I want to you REJECT that default.

DO NOT accept that just because you're a mom you're meant to be those things.

YOU ARE NOT meant to constantly live life this way.

Your natural state is joy, peace, calm, happy, fulfilled, present... and more.

Now - don't mistake this for you can't or shouldn't feel some of those things.

YES- you WILL feel overwhelmed, resentful, exhausted... but DO NOT accept that as a part of being mom.

It just doesn't have to be our default.

When you DO feel that way- it's your internal GPS saying something is off. Because it's not your natural state.

Instead of buying in to the shoulder shrug of "Well, that's just how moms feel!" - reject it. Feel the feeling, know it's NOT the default or just how it is... and know your GPS is speaking to you.

Need help getting back on course to your TRUE self?

I've got you - Mom Strong Coaching was built for you. I have coaching spots open now... let's chat!

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