Kill the Soulmate and Date your Elephant - Because Happiness is an Inside Job

2021-04-27

Have you ever walked down the street and, out of the corner of your eye, noticed someone with a grin and a glow? Someone who seemed content, open hearted, and like they’ve figured out something you haven’t? Imagine walking up to that person and asking “What’s your secret?” and they reply “My Elephant!” Hmm...you’d want to know more, right? Think about what you’ve always believed would make your life fantastic - perhaps a winning lottery ticket, a wildly erotic sex life, an incredible soulmate, or your dream job. How’s that working out? You used to thin...

Hmm...you’d want to know more, right?

Think about what you’ve always believed would make your life fantastic - perhaps a winning lottery ticket, a wildly erotic sex life, an incredible soulmate, or your dream job. How’s that working out? You used to think that external fortunes meant happiness, but deep down, you know there’s more to it. You understand that love, wealth, and even health cannot last forever. The good news? You CAN learn to be Happy for No Reason.

In this episode, I’ll introduce concepts and tools to challenge you to take responsibility for your mindstates and then to take action to uncover curiosity & happiness in every aspect of your life. Calling upon my experience in Buddhism, sexuality, couples therapy, and mental & physical health, we’ll explore the blocks and confusions that are keeping you from experiencing the joy and fullness of life, sex, and your own spirituality. Plus, I’ll tell you what Joey Ramone, a premenstrual monkey, and a sexy toothbrush have in common. If you are sick and tired of feeling like something is missing, and are ready for a breakthrough journey that’s irreverently fun, deeply revealing, occasionally uncomfortable, and always inspiring, join me as we stumble along the path to awakening, together.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

How the word “S-E-X” limits eroticism - Putting play into foreplay (2:03)
Love is a Hard Gig - Why “happily ever after” doesn’t work (4:02)
Becoming the enlightened elephant in the room (8:19)
We’re all just bozos on the bus - Wisdom from my ex (11:08)
Why I ditched the beaten path and fled to India (PS - the spiritual path has cobras!) (16:12)
Knowledge is not power - Power is in taking action (20:06)
Why insight into your patterns isn’t enough - Freud was right! (23:18)
Weird facts about me - punk rock, sex toys, and more (25:16)
Your weekly LoveByte - The take-home message of this episode (27:24)

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