Stop Ugly Fighting! Three Tips to Argue Effectively in 2024

2024-01-15

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“But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?”If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag.When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. Y...

“But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?”

If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?

On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag.

When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00)
One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38)
To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40)
When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28)
We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30)
Today’s LoveByte (21:09)

Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.

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