An Aspiration a Day keeps the Divorce Lawyer Away

2021-06-21

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” We’ve all heard that once or twice. And boy oh boy, that applies to our love relationships. We MEAN to be more romantic, caring, sexy, or fun...but then we forget. Today, I describe a unique relationship technique that can—in less than five minutes a day— start to turn your good intentions into actions that really improve your relationship. Let’s get real - you need some help turning what you think you could, should, or will do for your partner into relationship results.

Today, I describe a unique relationship technique that can—in less than five minutes a day— start to turn your good intentions into actions that really improve your relationship. Let’s get real - you need some help turning what you think you could, should, or will do for your partner into relationship results.

Welcome to the Mindful Loving Daily Aspiration technique. I created this love hack together with my partner. This powerful tool draws from our own efforts to create an exceptional relationship, as well as Buddhist teachings.

In Buddhism, Right Intention is an important step toward taking Right Action. In other words: intention is when we look at the nature of things and decide what matters most to us. By viewing our love relationships through this lens, we can set intentions like being a better listener, making love more often, being nicer to one another, or even restoring joy and playfulness to our time with our sweetheart.

In this episode, I talk about how to avoid what I call “Marriage Incorporated”—that feeling of “I love you but I’m not “In Love” with you anymore”. I show you how to get off that road of good intentions and take a right hand turn onto the bridge of aspiration. By creating a bridge between intention and action, you can start walking the talk and creating love that lasts a lifetime...instead of just waiting for it to happen. Join me as I break down some examples of the sort of sexy, romantic, and completely doable aspirations that you and your honey can start to set in just 5 minutes a day... as early as tomorrow morning!

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Knowledge gives us the tools, the ideas, the structures… but the power is in taking action. (5:00)
Setting mindful love intentions will improve your relationship. (08:40)
Why my husband and I set a daily love aspiration—and you can use the tool in your own relationship. (12:09)
Scheduled sex is a realistic, achievable goal - if you want a great sex life. (17:37)
Great couples are not an accident. It takes effort and energy to create the love you desire.. (21:36)
If you don't set cues to help you turn your aspiration into action, you'll tend to fail. Yup, the road to hell… (24:53)
Your weekly LoveByte (27:17)

Q&A:

How can I improve my flagging relationship? Set clear love intentions so you can take a conscious step toward better relationship skills.
What can I do to make my partner feel more important and loved? By making an effort to DO something that makes them feel special each and every day. Setting loving aspirations is a perfect tool.
How can I succeed at turning my best intentions into actual action steps? To succeed at something you want to do, it’s important to use clear cues to help yourself execute and take it into action.

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