Attachment Styles: The Root of Relationship Struggles with Adam Lane Smith

Adam Lane Smith, renowned attachment specialist and author, breaks down how attachment styles impact relationships and personal growth.

0:00 – Introduction.
0:52 – Who is Adam Smith?
2:47 – Learning about attachment theory.
7:20 – The four attachments.
7:57 – Can you be a combination of the four attachments?
9:51 – What makes it hard for Martin to let people in?
10:32 – A rock bottom moment for Martin.
12:21 – What are you in the four attachments?
12:25 – Secure attachment.
14:20 – Insecure attachment.
14:55 – Avoidant attachment.
15:26 – Disorganised attachment.
16:04 – Guys with avoidant attachment style.
16:57 – What attachment has the most problems with compatibility in relationships?
20:11 – Adam’s personal experience with attachment styles.
21:42 – What is the divorce rate in Western world and what are the common issues?
26:15 – How did Adam save a relationship?
34:28 – What does the word power mean?
40:12 – How do men and women respond to therapy?
43:35 – The fear of being vulnerable in a relationship.
47:25 – Vulnerability in the right way grows respect.
48:43 – Grace period vs. Solution-focused time.
51:02 – How to deal with open loops?
52:19 – The worst cases of women.
57:33 – Adam’s advice to anyone struggling with attachments.

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