You can’t really love anyone until you love yourself. While we see this a lot on Instagram, it’s something that actually requires a lot of exploration – and it’s my guest this week, the bestselling author and mind coach Vex King, that many of us have turned to over the past few years to teach us the true power of self-love, through his books, first in 2018’s Good Vibes, Good Life and later in 2021’s Healing is the New High. Now, Vex is back with his new title – Closer To Love – an essential guide to bringing those lessons into dating and romantic relationships. In this episode, he shares a little sample platter of that wisdom. We discuss everything from how Vex’s difficult upbringing made him the person he is today - how he’s navigated what he calls the verb, or action, that is love, in his own relationship with his wife. Finally, a fresh approach to self-love: how to demonstrate it to yourself through actions, and how to self-love if you’re looking for a relationship but haven’t found one yet.
We discuss, among other things:
Cultural references from our conversation:
You can purchase all of Vex King’s books from Vexking.com
Subscribe to my weekly email newsletter at francescaspecter.substack.com to follow my personal writing plus podcast bonus content.
You can also order my book, Alonement: How To Be Alone and Absolutely Own It, which is based on this very podcast, now from Amazon, Waterstones and Bookshop.org.
Thank you so much to WestLab for sponsoring this season of the podcast. Visit westlabsalts.co.uk/products/dead-sea-salt and quote the code ALONEMENT15 for 15% off when you spend £10 or more, excludes subscriptions,T&Cs apply. Code expires 31st August 2023.
Twitter:
*
@ChezSpecter
@vexking
*
Instagram:
*
@ChezSpecter
@vexking
With a one-off payment of £5, you can listen to the Alonement podcast ad-free. https://plus.acast.com/s/alonement.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Emma Gannon: Rediscovering Who You Are, Offline
Roxie Nafousi: On Manifesting, Vision Boarding, & Why Solo Time Is Integral
Isy Suttie: I'm An Introverted Extrovert
Angelica Malin: The Secret To Living Your Best Single Life
Oliver Burkeman: Stop Feeling Bad About Being Human
Dr Julie Smith: The Power Of Self-Soothing (& How To Do It)
Erling Kagge: 50 Days Alone In The South Pole
Radhika Sanghani: How I Fell In Love With Myself
Alonement: Season 6 Trailer
Natasha Lunn: Love Is Protecting Each Other’s Solitude
Michael James Wong: Mindfulness & The Value Of Inaction Skills
Kate Wills: Divorce, Solo Travel & New Beginnings
Mo Gawdat: Why I'm Becoming A 'Half-Monk'
Emma John: Being Single In Your Forties
Lorraine Candy: The Joys Of Cold Water Swimming
Alex Soojung-Kim Pang: Finding Purpose & Focus At Work
Bella Younger: Social Media Addiction & Killing Off Deliciously Stella
Rekesh Chauhan: Loneliness Awareness Week Miniseries
Cheryl Rickman: Loneliness Awareness Week Miniseries
Alex Holmes: Loneliness Awareness Week Miniseries
Create your
podcast in
minutes
It is Free
The Modern West
Every L Podcast
The Empty Rooms of Gorski Manor
Things Fell Apart
Uncanny
Jim Harold’s Campfire