Today we sit down with Robyn Gobbel to discuss how parenting kids who have experienced trauma and kids who haven't the same. It doesn't matter if they are bio, foster or adopted, they all still need safety, securing and connection.
Here are some take aways.
The best thing we can do when triggered by our kid is to stop and assess what is going on with ourselves. Working on yourself will free you up to be more available for a child whether it is your child or just one you interact with.
Rather than focus on parenting a trauma kid or a biological kid, focus on knowing your individual child’s bar. What can you expect from them? What sends them over the edge? Where can you push them? And where do you need to accommodate them? These are pertinent questions to ask about any and all children.
Do you tend to be more structured or more nurturing. Understand how you tend to be naturally and understand where you can stand to be more nurturing or more structured. Nurture tends to be more easy for people so where can we build in more structure, boundaries while we make space for any emotions that come up so our children can feel safe and connected.
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Visits Robyns Site
Building Life Skills for Kids Transitioning Out of Foster Care
Why Kids with Developmental Trauma Steal
Big Ts and Little Ts - It's all trauma
Understanding ACES: Building Resilience through Mentorship
#76: 4 Ways Mentorship is Therapeutic for Children with Complex Trauma Needs
#75: Dealing with Lying: Why Children with Complex Trauma Lie
#74: Become a Child Advocate with Joan Ulsher
#73: We Don't Fix Kids
#72 Replay: Navigating Sticky Situations
#71: Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder and Life Hacks for Busy Families with Laura Hernandez
#70: Building Objectivity and Open Mindedness
#69 Triggered Response Intervention WONDER™ Method
#68: Helping Kids Plan for the Future
#67: Trauma Informed Holidays
#66 Structured BUT Flexible
#65 My Response to Hate Mail: We're all good enough
#64: Healed People Heal People
#63: Black Foster Youth Handbook with Angela Quijada-Banks
Becoming a CASA with Marla Higginbotham
Garbage Bag Suitcase Part 2 with Shenandoah Chefalo
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