Welcome to episode 239 where we focus on the process of gaining the most important approval: from ourselves.
In this episode, we explored the concept of gaining self-approval as opposed to relying on external validation to feel good about ourselves. We began by discussing common ways we can outsource our sense of approval, examining the roots of this behavior in childhood experiences, and delving into the impact of perfectionism. We then talk about practical steps for listeners to cultivate self-approval, including self-reflection exercises to identify core values and goals, mindfulness practices, and the importance of setting boundaries.
We focus on the significance of breaking free from the cycle of seeking external validation, encouraging listeners to develop self-compassion, set realistic goals, and prioritize their well-being. By understanding the origins of approval-seeking behaviors and implementing actionable strategies, we can toward a more authentic and self-affirming life.
Key Takeaways:
Cultivate Self-Reflection for Core Values:
Encourage listeners to engage in self-reflection exercises to identify their core values and goals. This process serves as a foundation for understanding personal motivations, making decisions aligned with authentic values, and fostering self-approval.
Establish Healthy Boundaries:
Highlight the role of boundaries in maintaining a healthy sense of self. Emphasize the importance of setting limits, preserving individuality, and protecting emotional well-being. Healthy boundaries contribute to balanced relationships and prevent the erosion of self-esteem.
Break Free from Perfectionism:
Address the connection between perfectionism and seeking approval. Encourage listeners to recognize and challenge perfectionistic tendencies, understanding that self-worth is not solely tied to external achievements. By embracing imperfections and fostering self-compassion, we can break free from the cycle of perfectionism and seek approval from within.
Anytime we go against what we say matters,
and we look out there to be ok, we're in trouble.
Seeking external validation cannot coexist
with authentic self-worth.
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