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"We are not born with the secret of how to live [well], and too many of us never learn it. There is nothing cold-blooded or mechanical about it, but there are many things we have to learn to do . . . the first thing is to realize we've probably been looking in the wrong place. The source is not outside us; it is within." —Mildred Newman & Bernard Berkowitz, authors of How to Be Your Own Best Friend
Befriend yourself and you have a friend for life.
This simple saying, often expressed, while true, is often not understood as to how it can be possible. But the most awesome news I want to share with you today is that you have had the answers to so much of the peace, calm, and clarity you have been seeking traveling within you all this time. How to tap into and what exactly are you looking for? That is what we are going to talk about today.
Inspired by a book that was written in 1971 Mildred Newman and her husband, both psychologists, Bernard Berkowitz, the title was originally How To be Your Own Best Friend: A Conversation With Two Psychoanalysts. Consisting of only 74 pages, their insights are shared, as this title suggests, in conversation form - questions followed by answers.
While little known when the couple originally self-published, it was with the help of author, screenwriter and director Nora Ephron, who upon reading the book quite liked it so she introduced the authors to her book agent upon which it then became a national bestseller (learn more about how she helped in this article published earlier this year). Picking up my own copy and zooming through it, I found common sense advice, grounded in approachable guidance sharing reminders and nudges of how we can help ourselves out but often are too timid to do so due to a variety of cultural circumstances and pressures.
As I read, the overlap of choosing to be your best friend and finding and experiencing contentment quickly became apparent, and having just wrapped up producing all of the filmed lessons for TSLL's Contentment Masterclass, as you will discover when you enroll, knowing ourselves and honoring what we find to be true for ourselves resides at the core of a fulfilling life. In the words of the authors, becoming our best friend is sage wisdom to follow. However, what does that look like? Being our own best friend? That's what I want to share with you today and the benefits of doing so.
Let's get started.
View the Show Notes on the blog: https://thesimplyluxuriouslife.com/podcast379
243: 12 Ways to Make Mornings Magical, Mindful and the Foundation of a Great Day and Great Success
242: 31 Ways to Practice True Self-Care and Exponentially Improve the Quality of Your Daily Life
241: Attaining the Change You Seek in the New Year
240: The Importance of a Daily Routine & How to Create One You Love (top episode from season 3)
239: 38 Invaluable Ways to Attain Happiness (the top episode from season 2)
238: 20 Ways to Create a Luxurious Everyday Life - The French Way (top episode of Season 1)
237: 7 Life Lessons from The Tao of Pooh
236: A Word to Remove from Our Vocabulary for Stronger Relationships - Should
235: 10 Ideas Gleaned & Confirmed from my Last Dinner Party
234: Becoming Your Best Self - Embracing the Transformation Process
233: Inslee Fariss, Manhattan based Artist & Illustrator (and the talented woman behind all of TSLL's artwork)
232: 28 Life & Style Tips from a Parisian Woman
231: How Being Nice at Work Can Be the Road to Success & Career Achievement
230: More Depth, Less Drama
229: How to Let Your Truth Emerge
228: 21 Parisian Decor Ideas from Ines de la Fressange's New Book
227: 16 Ideas for Simple Everyday Self-Care
226: Understand This Tricky Paradox of Control In Order to Improve Your Life
225: Trust the Transition: How to Step Through and Embrace the Change You Seek
224: How to Welcome Simplicity Into Your Life: Live Differently for One Month
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