Overcome the Fear of 'singlehood'| A Real Life Client Story
The WISDOM podcast Season 3 Episode 2
It is something that we all experience; singlehood. A time in which you are un-partnered, indivisible by one. To be single is to consist as a separate and unique whole.
And still, it may be the most avoided and feared experience together with public speaking and something that most of us would not like to admit - the fear of being alone and ‘un’ partnered as one enters the latter chapters of one’s life.
There is the obvious reason for why so many people yearn to be a part of a couple. We want to experience love and to to be loved; and to love another. It is a part of why we exist.
The love that two people share in a partner relationship has the potential to grow, to evoke and transform each one of us as we enjoy a sacred bond with another.
But if you fear being alone then what you will attract; what you will draw to you; what you will settle for will never be enough because it is chosen out of fear and not love, confidence, desire based on autonomy.
What is it that motivates us to begin looking for the next relationship and a new person to “make us happy” when the truth is... a lack of happiness can only be fixed from within one’s self.
Ultimately happiness is a choice. It is the freedom that you bring to everything you do.
It is the appreciation and love that you hold for yourself, and the choices that you make independent of another person that reminds you that you are enough; you are more than enough.
Bobby admitted to himself and to me that he was afraid of being alone. An only child to parents who themselves had a tumultuous relationship; there were some well-driven fears that were relatable. His father’s unstable mental health was a discriminant factor in what became a lonely and bittersweet marriage that drifted apart early in Bobby’s life. His mother, never remarried and his father’s relationships with women were filled with drama and conflict.
One can understand the desire for not wanting to be alone; for as an only child one can feel alone in the world; and especially after a parent or both passes.
To fear being alone means that you don’t feel the significance of being with yourself. To feel alone is to ignore the relationship with yourself that you have the potential to experience; that is how you learn that you are already complete, already whole.
Join me in this episode of 'ask dorothy' of The WISDOM podcast and why you need to be single for a time; why this time is significant in which to develop the relationship you hold with yourself. Then, with the confidence and self-love you possess, and the clarity of what you want in a partner; you will manifest this.
*The name of my client has been changed to maintain confidentiality. His story is real.
Sharing the wisdom and beauty of divine love with you...
Namaste!
If you have a question or if you would like my guidance or help, please reach out to me: dorothy@dorothyratusny.com
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More Resources and Love:
* This Is A Self-Love Movement [YouTube Video]
* The Ultimate Self-Love WISDOM toolkit
* Self-Love: A Meditation to Heal Your Life [The Wisdom Archives]
* Do You Let Love In? How to Feel Deserving of Love [Podcast Episode]
* Work with Me [Life Coaching & Therapy]
A generous 'thank you' to Audio Engineer, P. Kirpikau radioplato
Podcast Theme Music: 'Aura' from the Album, Illuvia by Eternell www.eternell.net/album/illuvia
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