212 - Tempo Wars (Q from Anon)

Ever been stuck in a band where tempos feel unpredictable…

there’s no count-off… no click allowed… and the tension is rising?
This week’s question comes from a drummer caught in exactly that situation — dealing with a stressed band leader, shifting tempos, and the pressure of holding it all together.
In this episode, I unpack what’s really going on in tempo wars — and how to deal with them without losing your confidence or your cool.
We cover:
• Why tempo issues are rarely just about time
• How to build trust in your internal clock (with or without clicks)
• When adapting helps — and when it quietly hurts you
• How to raise difficult topics without making things worse
• Collaborative compromises that actually work on gigs
• Protecting your confidence when frustration is in the room
If you’ve ever walked off a rehearsal or gig feeling rattled, blamed, or second-guessing yourself — this one’s for you.
🎧 Listen now — Episode 212 is live.

And if you want support navigating tricky band dynamics, you can book a FREE 30-minute Coaching Taster Session via https://www.emilydrums.com or the link in my bio.