206 - The Dark Side of Being Easy to Work With

2025-10-25

Being “easy to work with” is one of the biggest compliments a musician can get — but what happens when it goes too far? In this episode of A Drummer’s Guide To…, Emily Dolan Davies explores the fine line between being kind, professional, and adaptable… and losing yourself in the process. She shares personal stories of times she over-accommodated others — saying yes when she meant no, taking on too much to avoid rocking the boat, and confusing silence for professionalism.Through honest reflection an...

Being “easy to work with” is one of the biggest compliments a musician can get — but what happens when it goes too far?

In this episode of A Drummer’s Guide To…, Emily Dolan Davies explores the fine line between being kind, professional, and adaptable… and losing yourself in the process.

She shares personal stories of times she over-accommodated others — saying yes when she meant no, taking on too much to avoid rocking the boat, and confusing silence for professionalism.
Through honest reflection and years of industry experience, Emily dives into the darker side of being “the nice one,” and how to rebuild confidence, boundaries, and self-respect without losing your warmth.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
🎯 Why being “easy” can lead to resentment and burnout
💬 How to set boundaries without guilt or confrontation
🧠 The psychology behind people-pleasing in creative industries
💡 Practical ways to protect your time, energy, and self-worth

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