92 - How To Let Things Go

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk through the real-life challenge and inevitability of letting go. Annaliese brings up why it’s hard, how we make it harder, and what it takes to finally loosen our grip on what’s no longer serving us.

You’ll Hear About:

• Knowing you need to let go is not the same as being able to do it. Letting go takes awareness, honesty, and compassion for why it’s hard in the first place.

• Holding on is often connected to our identity or what we care about most. To let go, you need to first name what you’re carrying and why.

• Our brains think letting go has to be all-or-nothing—but it doesn’t. Letting go isn’t giving up. It’s choosing peace over pressure when what used to work… doesn’t anymore.

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Questions to Help You Let Go:
What are you holding onto? Why? What’s it promising you? Is it working?

Ways to Practice Letting Go:

1. Give yourself permission back.
   When you’ve carried something for a long time, it starts to feel like a rule—like you have to keep carrying it. But you don’t. You can give yourself permission to make new choices. Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring—it means you care in a way that’s sustainable and honest.

2. Decide how you want to care.
   Sometimes we hold on just to prove we care. But you get to choose what caring looks like now. Ask yourself: What will it look like for me to care differently? What will I do or say? What beliefs do I need to shift to trust that letting go is still caring?

3. Decide how you want to let go.
   Letting go means releasing something—so give yourself what you need to feel safe in that process. Slow down. Breathe. Be present with yourself. Ask: What am I releasing? What kind of support do I need as I show up differently? Letting go becomes possible when you feel safe, seen, and in charge of your choice.