Shelly and Cam continue exploring the significance and process of creating value and dig into creating value around purpose and identity this week. They refine their Sense, Access, Value model through deeper discussion, new client examples and sharing practices for listeners. Value lives between attention and motivation, and ADHD disrupts the valuation process by limiting accessibility and awareness (Barriers I and II from episodes 94 and 104). Getting clear on what you need or what really matters is key to determining agency and is also highly dependent on timing. We need this information to be accessible at the times we need it most. Unfortunately with ADHD, when swept up in a dramatic moment the things that are valuable to us like identities, practices and purpose can fade into the background.
Shelly shares a story about how a client thought they needed to be more like a gregarious but abrupt co-worker. In exploring this, Shelly and her client soon realized that the client was creating false value around the attributes of this “Politician” individual. Further exploration revealed a desire for more connectedness to the client’s own sense of self - a desire to collaborate. Shelly shares how at first she didn’t see herself in the picture when considering a really important relationship decision, but when she circled back to consider what truly matters she got crystal clear on her next steps. Cam and Shelly discuss the importance of a positive feedback loop and that with incomplete information we can create a false picture of success. Finally, they share how listeners can use Pause, Disrupt, Pivot in the larger Sense, Access, Value framework.
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For more of the Translating ADHD podcast:
Habitual Responses to Time with ADHD
Emotions and Stories: Getting to What is Real with ADHD
Mindfulness on My Own Terms with ADHD
Orienting to the Full Impact of our Experience with ADHD
Trusting our Brain when the Relationship Turns Toxic
Ignorance: The Common Enemy of ADHD
When your Partner isn’t Supporting your ADHD Journey
The Valuation of Time and Emotion with ADHD
Evoking Awareness as a Practice with ADHD
Cultivating a Self-Care Practice with ADHD
Anchoring as a Practice with ADHD
Cultivating a Metaphor Practice with ADHD
Cultivating a Practice of Articulation with ADHD
Bigger Perspective Work with ADHD: A Client Scenario
Cultivating a Practice: Perspective Shifts and ADHD
Cultivating a Practice with ADHD
Emotional Modes with ADHD: Empathy
Cultivating Trust in Relationships with ADHD
Positive Emotions and Positive Structures with ADHD
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