Week 15: Step 4 | Melissa Reviews Col 3 + Intro to Guest Speaker Leah

Week 15: Resentment Inventory

STEP 4 Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves

This is where I can see how I've been "running the show" (step 3) and how I think people need to behave, what I need people to believe I am, what roles I think people need to play in order for me to be "Okay".

See the bottom of BB page 64 for the 7 areas of 'self'.

Last we looked at the first 4 areas of 'self' in the 3rd column: Remember...The FEAR is usually opposite of the role you and others play.

This week we complete the last half of COLUMN 3: Affects my...

Personal Relations: My deep-seated beliefs of how this relationship is supposed to look: Ex. Wives trust their husbands . (Fear: not being trusted) Mothers respect their son's choices (Fear: disrespected) Real friends always agree with me (Fear: not validated)

Sex Relations: My deep seated beliefs of how men or women are supped to be. If you are a man, start your sentence...Ex. "A real man...." If you are a woman, start you sentence...Ex "A real woman..." Ex: A real woman is respected by everyone (Fear: being disrespected)

Pocket Book: Affect my finances. Start sentence with--- No one should or others (can, should, shouldn't) Ex: No one should see me struggle financially (Fear: being vulnerable) T

Once we have finished the 3rd column completely, we turn the page over to reveal the mirror. Now we get to take a look at ourselves and see the truth- that we are more alike than different from the person we have in our first column, We see how we have behaved like them in the second column.

Realization: "How have I done the things I've resented in Column 2 to the person I've listed in Column 1 and/or OTHERS?" (P.66 PP3) "this was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us were, perhaps, spiritually sick...like ourselves")

Guess what? The REALIZATION is usually only a reflection of what you wrote in the 2nd column!

SKIP THE REALIZATION IF IT IS NOT A PERSON 
In cases of abuse, there is no realization (unless you have also been a perpetrator) that you have behaved like them. If you have not, the realization should be left BLANK.

Continue saying the 3rd step prayer and the set aside prayer on your knees morning and ight. Continue conduscting a daily 10th and 11th step, growing nearer to God. "What at first appears a flimsy reed becomes the loving and powerful hand of God".