Shelly and Cam do an abrupt right turn with expectations, from camping in the woods on Phish Tour with Shelly to the environment and demands of work. Wherever there are people there are expectations, and wherever there are expectations there are different interpretations of those expectations. Burnout is actually an indicator of mismanaged expectations. ADHD makes it really tough to distinguish the priority of competing demands, and we often falter when we sense conflicting expectations.
Shelly and Cam explore a few client examples of habitual responses (from last week) and what the clients did to have a different experience with expectations. Using a colorful metaphor from a previous episode of ‘too many tennis balls coming over the net’, Shelly’s client resources her new manager to take a look at all of the end-of-school-year incoming demands and to prioritize and make an action plan for a ‘successful return volley’. The common theme is noticing the expectation and your own response to it. Shifting expectations from an ‘immutable truth’ to actually what it is - a point of engagement for dialogue.
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For more of the Translating ADHD podcast:
Emotions and Stories: Getting to What is Real with ADHD
Mindfulness on My Own Terms with ADHD
Orienting to the Full Impact of our Experience with ADHD
Trusting our Brain when the Relationship Turns Toxic
Ignorance: The Common Enemy of ADHD
When your Partner isn’t Supporting your ADHD Journey
Creating Value Around Identity and Purpose with ADHD
The Valuation of Time and Emotion with ADHD
Evoking Awareness as a Practice with ADHD
Cultivating a Self-Care Practice with ADHD
Anchoring as a Practice with ADHD
Cultivating a Metaphor Practice with ADHD
Cultivating a Practice of Articulation with ADHD
Bigger Perspective Work with ADHD: A Client Scenario
Cultivating a Practice: Perspective Shifts and ADHD
Cultivating a Practice with ADHD
Emotional Modes with ADHD: Empathy
Cultivating Trust in Relationships with ADHD
Positive Emotions and Positive Structures with ADHD
Opening the Door to Positive Emotions with ADHD
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